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  • 1 Post By Gaby&Emmy'sMama

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August 14th, 2012, 11:03 AM
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So BD left. I haven't heard from him.

I made the decision I didn't want his name on the birth certificate and I won't take him for child support. I've tailored my life around being able to support another child on my own, and really if he wants to walk out & leave, I would rather he just stay gone...

Now I'm taking a lot of criticism saying I'd be depriving the child of a relationship w/ their father, or vice versa, and that I should take him for child support because that's whats fair to the child....

I'm sick of it. It's my baby, my choice. I feel he made his choice when he left and hasn't bothered to ask me if I decided to continue the pregnancy, etc etc. He hasn't inquired a single time about what I am going to do w/ the pregnancy/baby. Again, I feel he made his choice. I don't feel like this is an emotional decision for me, and I haven't changed my address, phone number, or email address. He knows how to get a hold of me & hasn't... So how am I depriving this child of a relationship w/ their father? The BD is the one doing that.

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August 14th, 2012, 05:38 PM
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It's tough hun. and SO easy for OTHER people to tell you what THEY think is 'best'.. when really, until you're the one right in the middle of it, you have no idea what it's like.... YES, I agree that a child should have a relationship with its father. BUT.... how am I to know what is best for YOUR child??? If a man doesn't want anything to do with his own child, is it right to push him, or the child, to form a relationship - - which at the end of the day will probably be one full of let downs?

Just keep doing what you feel is best for your child.... if you change your mind later down the track, then so be it... But it's your life, and your child & you have to do what you feel is best
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August 15th, 2012, 03:26 PM
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I ended up with same type of criticism it's ridicolous because they don't realize it's the BD doing that

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November 2nd, 2012, 02:32 AM
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Yup I has this same problem. But I let myself be bullied. I didn't want his name on the birth certificate, I was t going to take him for child support, I got 3 jobs so I could support this child on my own, but I was bullied into having him sign :/ I wish I never would have. I wish I would have stuck with my plan and what I thought was best. I agree with Gaby&emmys mama. YOU have to do what YOU think is best for YOUR child. No one else knows what that is better than you!!!

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