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February 6th, 2013, 08:09 PM
Join Date: Jan 2013
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The father of my baby is being a real jerk lately. Blaming me for everything, saying he thinks I will not make a good mother. I know I will - I've tried so hard to make it work with him but I don't think there is much else I can do at this point.

Unfortunately I would have to move back to SC where I grew up, since he doesn't want to try to work it out it seems, which is not ideal for me.

I guess I just really want to vent and discuss things with someone.

I'm really scared to be a single mother. This is the first time I have gotten pregnant and I have considered every option but I don't think there is but only one for me. I want this baby. I already love him or her... I'm just so scared to be alone through this.

My 15 year old sisters about to have a baby... which while its sad she's so young... she seems to be handling it a lot easier than me...
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February 7th, 2013, 10:14 AM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jan 2011
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Welcome here I'm Traci Mom to Brendan whose 8 yrs.

I'm sorry that men have to be that way. He sounds just like my son's dad.

Why can't you move back to SC ?

Maybe if you asked your family to get a ticket for you to fly back there or have someone drive to get you ?

Other than that look around for Housing Authority information in your city/state ask to get signed up for Sec 8.

Call up a Office of Public Assistance sign up for foodstamps

Do you work ?

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February 7th, 2013, 03:58 PM
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It's not that I can't move, it would make me completely miserable in certain ways. No, I unfortunately do not have a job. My mother said she was going back down there and could help me get down there, my dad said he would come get me or pay for a ticket...

...idk, I guess I just really didn't want to have to go that route.

I would do it for my baby but I know I wouldn't be as happy.
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February 8th, 2013, 11:54 AM
Mega Super Mommy
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I know what you mean after all I loved living in California and wasn't happy in my MT hometown.

I ended up moving back to where I didn't like to be because that was the only way I could afford to live as a single parent without making us to have to struggle.

Plus with grandparents in town I get a Free babysitter.

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February 8th, 2013, 01:20 PM
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Location: Ohio
Posts: 28
I had to move home with my parents when I got pregnant or try to go it alone where I was.
It waa hard but my son thrived around all my family. And ultimately it worked out. I ear ned a lot of r ed spect I didn't have before from my family.
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February 24th, 2013, 09:28 AM
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My 7 month old son and I are currently living with my parents. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I moved back home from 2 hours away when I was 32 weeks pregnant. I left behind a great job and many friends I truly loved. I also left behind the baby's father, but that was his choice. My son's father has never met him and doesn't plan to. He caused so much heartbreak during my pregnancy, it was almost better this way. Living with my parents has definitely been an adjustment, but it was really for the best. You have to surround yourself with the people who love you most during this time. You need all the support you can get. Also, having a newborn is so hard. You will be soooo grateful to have your parents to help you so you can take a nap, get a shower, or even eat a meal in peace. When I was pregnant, everyone told me it would all work out and be worth it once the baby was born. I doubted them. Now that he's here, he is my everything. He is the center of my universe and every bit of pain and hardship was worth it to have him in my life. It really will work out and you really can do this!!! The strength you need to make it through is growing inside you!!! I could say more, but don't want to ramble. Feel free to message me anytime.
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March 1st, 2013, 11:23 PM
BlessedMommyx's Avatar Stephanie
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Location: Orange County, California
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Hugs to you!
I'm 22 (was 21 when I got pregnant) The father of my baby stopped all communication with me 3 days after I told him I was pregnant. It sucks. But I tried not to dwell on it because I didn't want to stress the baby out. My daughter is 8 months old and I have NOT heard from him since I told him. It's insane. And sad. But I live with my parents who are such loving grandparents.

Know that its going to be tough, but you need to think of YOU and your BABY not the jerk of the father. If moving to another state to get the support that you and your baby need then you should do it. You might be reluctant now, but once your baby is here, you will see how much easier it is, being a single mom and having family so close by. Good luck to you hun. And he doesn't even deserve your thoughts. If he is choosing this path, then try and move on. I know its harder for some, but it's defintely helpful for me to not even think of the father and dwell on it.

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