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August 14th, 2009, 09:54 AM
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Intro: Hi, I am new to this board. I am 35 and have long-standing, treated depression--except that now I am 8 weeks pregnant and not taking meds. This is really difficult for me. THe last two days (just weaned off two days ago) have been a rollar coater! I am moody and angry and sooo agitated at any movement, noise level that's constant, etc. I have two other children and I do childcare.

My dilema: I don't want to take meds with this child. I didn't take any with my first one. My second one, I had pretty severe depression and took a little bit (smallest possible dose that would work) on and off (mostly on) and nursed for one year with 25mg of Zoloft. I am feeling so guilty that I took meds with her an worry a lot about the long-standing effects it may or may not have had on her. I know I did it before without meds, but I wasn't married, didn't have a house to pay for, didn't have other children, and didn't do childcare.

Solutions I've come up with so far: I have cut back my hours to about 40-45 /week and limited myself to no more than 5 or 6 kids per day and that helps the stress.

Why I'm writing now: I just got done yelling at my two children and I am feeling pretty hopeless and like crying. I feel like I am a bad mother for wanting to take meds and a bad one for not taking the meds. I am afraid that I will lose the baby if I do take them or that they will have some form of defect if I do take them.

My question: has anyone had experience with meds while pregnant and/or trying to stay off of them while pregnant and how did that go? I am hoping that by staying connected on this board I can stay off the meds altogether while I am pregnant.

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August 22nd, 2009, 04:52 AM
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you're not a bad mother at all ... the only reason I didn't take meds when I was having my children is because back then I wasn't diagnosed as yet

I don't think that Zoloft has any sort of adverse effects if taken while pregnant so you can try and relax about that

If you need to take your medication then you have to take it ... I'd much rather be medicated with meds that are proven safe to take while pregnant than go through tedious awful bouts of depression, anxiety and anger fits cause that also affects unborn babies too ... a calm state of mind goes a long way for a healthy happy baby.

Welcome to the board, I'm Lisa mom to Sabrina 16 and Adam 14 1/2 and I'm glad to have you here with us

Sorry I took so long to reply, things were just crazy at my office and every day this week I got home late and just conked out soon after reaching home.

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August 23rd, 2009, 12:06 PM
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Thank you for the input and advice. I can say that today I am in melencholy. I feel like crying over everything and anything, sad-like, and not much energy for anger to place outward. It's been off/on, but it's getting much harder to keep under control. I can't say I would ever do anything, but I can say that at times I feel I'd be better off dead. That's not good and a good sign that I'm on a downward spiral. So, I'm going to catch it now, because I don't want to go to that place again.

My doctor told me to start back up last visit. She knows my normal self and could see I was drawn out, and very sad looking. I wanted to keep trying to stay off of them. I feel bad enough the first 7 weeks I was on them unknowingly pregnant. Most of the research I have done is positive. My doctor said a low dose she is ok with.

I think I am going to take 25 mg today and see how that goes...even if it's every other day or something.
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August 26th, 2009, 08:41 AM
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I spoke to 6 different specialists before getting pregnant with my son, and they all agreed about which of my meds are safe and which meds had to go. The thing that convinced me to stay on some of my meds was that, for women who really need psych meds, there is a 20% risk for pre-term labor if they need them and don't take them. The doctors all told me that being unmedicated was as risky as being medicated, so I might as well be medicated.
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August 26th, 2009, 06:49 PM
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Honey, I know you don't want to be on medication. I understand and felt the same way. I looked at several SSRI's and saw that they can cause heart and lung problems, but it's less than 1% chance. I chose to stay off my meds as long as possible. Now in my third trimester, I'm suffering from a major depressive episode. It's not good. I stopped eating, stopped caring, and stopped taking care of my house and my family. I too was without a husband my first time around and isn't it sad to say it was a lot easier. I could sleep when I wanted, eat what i wanted and not have to take care of anyone but me. Talk to your Ob, talk to your Psychiatrist, and way the options. In the end only you can make that decision. For me, I tried as long as I could, but I couldn't do it anymore. Am I scared, yes. Do I feel guilty, yes, but I know that I'm doing the best I can with my situation. There are risks from taking the meds and from not taking the meds. I've decided that my sanity is important. In order for me to take care of the baby and my daughter, I need to do this. And the thought of PPD terrifies me. So, when I had this lapse, I knew it was time. I couldn't put it off anymore.

I really wish you the best of luck whichever direction you decide to go. I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. Whatever decision you make, just know that you are doing what you feel is best for you and your family. You have a lot going on right now. And being pregnant is hard. Being depressed and pregnant is even harder. We're here when and if you want to talk... Best of luck to you. And let us know what you decide.
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August 27th, 2009, 05:18 AM
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my psychiatrist said that the issue with the lung defect manifests in the first month or so when the embryo is developing. so if you start when all major organs have developed to a large degree it should be minimal risk.

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August 28th, 2009, 02:32 PM
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I did take 25 mg for two days and have now been off for 3 days. Today is tough again. The last two days were great. The meds helped me and my oldest daughter even smiled at me while we were driving cuz she was able to talk and laugh with me.

Guilt is there either way. It's nice to talk to others who really understand this issue. Thank you for the support.
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