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August 4th, 2005, 03:32 PM
SavaAngel's Avatar Mama to AJ & Katie
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No one thinks that about you, we are just trying to help in any way we can. Please continue to give everything we have all said some thought, and if he won't change then you are going to have to make the move for yourself and that baby. If I may, I would suggest you do some research online to see if there is an agency or help line that you can call to help you out.


P.S. If/When you decide to leave, I would suggest not telling him you are doing it, because he may beg you to stay and if it hasn't worked so far, it might not ever. JMHO. Good Luck!!!!

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August 4th, 2005, 08:53 PM
KBeans's Avatar Believe in your body
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honestly, i just left one day while he was out at work. everytime i tried to leave with him knowing he would tell me how much he loved me....yeah right, he only loved the thought of being able to have the control.

sometimes we have to sacrifice and do things we wouldn't normally do to save our children. put aside your fears and decide what is best.

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November 6th, 2005, 07:18 AM
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Oh sweetheart, my heart is with you. I was married to a control freak and he did push me down some stairs once. I know exactly what you are going through.

I stayed married to him for 7 years and we had 3 children. I really wanted it to work, not only for the children but because I took the vows seriously. Every time he was verbally or physically abusive he was so sorry and promised to change. Nothing changed.

We have been divorced for 10 years <I just left one day with my children>. The first couple of years were so hard but looking back on everything I was better off alone and struggling. He is still the same person and still tries to control me through the children.

I have a family very similar to yours. I begged my mom to let me come live with her and she said "you made your choices, live with them". I really leaned on my friends at the time for mental support.

You have a tough decision ahead of you. Just remember, they dont change and you have to do what is best for you and your baby.

Huge Huge Hugs,

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