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November 11th, 2011, 07:37 AM
Mega Super Mommy
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Do any of you have aging parents or grandparents with whom you're really close?

We're having some frustrations lately with my grandmother and my mom and I who really deal with her on a daily basis. We're anticipating some bigger challenges with her related to her care and I find myself in the odd position of worrying about both of them. My mom's health isn't great to begin with and she's been under significant pressures the last year with her own MIL having alzheimers. Now my grandma is starting to show signs of needing higher levels of care, and it's taking an even harder toll on my mother.

Grandma has all her faculties still, and is 86, and very young at heart. BUT, she's starting to do silly things to try and prove that she can take care of herself. But in the process of doing so, it's like she's overlooking the basics. My uncle and cousin go over every weekend to do yard stuff and have a short visit. My mom is with her just about every single day. I try to see her once or twice a week. Talk to her just about every day. We have someone come in to clean the house once per month. She manages her own meals (she eats out for lunch almost every single day and rarely feels very hungry for dinner because of that). She won't live in a retirement home, she won't live with other people. She will resist bringing in any additional help during the day.

I find myself then trying to keep tabs on two old dolls, and chase my toddler and work and keep my home working the way it should...kind of a sticky wedge like situation. Not a very comfortable spot to be in.

Misery loves company if anyone has dealt with a similar issue. Would like some fresh ideas on how to cope here.
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November 11th, 2011, 10:42 AM
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I have not had to deal with this yet. I know my grandparents were in a retirement home and then had to be moved to assistant living because my grandma fell and broke her hip and my grandfather left here there all night.

I am sorry you are going thru this. I hope you can work something out. Is it possible that maybe she can move in with your mom?

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November 12th, 2011, 09:20 PM
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I wish I could provide help. My parents are deceased. I only have one grandparent still alive and we arent super close.


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