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September 19th, 2010, 05:55 AM
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Okay, so I've never made a post like this before, but its really bugging me!

Last night I had a girls night out with a local moms group and the discussion turned to TTC. The lady sitting next to me started saying how she's been trying for 2 months now, and she is getting really mad. How can she not be pregnant after two months!? She even went to her OB and asked them to do tests on her because she isn't pregnant already. I started getting really mad! I never say anything in this situation, but it was really eating at me. I turned to her and said "honey, I've been trying for 1.5 years, so two months really isn't that bad." I felt bad for saying anything, but I felt if I didn't I was about to burst into tears. Ugh, I hate it when women are so blind when it comes to TTC issues.

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September 19th, 2010, 07:39 AM
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I hear ya-people have no clue! I think it's good you said that-maybe it will give her some perspective.

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September 19th, 2010, 08:16 AM
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You were nicer than I would've been...
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September 19th, 2010, 08:53 AM
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2 months?!?! ugh. i think you did the right thing by putting her in her place. heehee. maybe she'll be more sensitive/aware next time.
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September 19th, 2010, 10:36 AM
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I'm glad you said something. Some people have no idea!
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September 19th, 2010, 10:59 AM
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I think you did the right thing as well! Sheesh. 2 months. Although honestly the media and even school text books make getting pregnant looks super easy. So I understand why women expect to get pregnant the first time they have unprotected sex.
But I just tell women in that situation seriously don't be all mad when it hasnt happened in 2 months. Even doctors say in a healthy couple it could take up to a year.
*HUGS* im sorry hon.

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September 19th, 2010, 03:44 PM
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People in this world!! Grrr!
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September 19th, 2010, 05:01 PM
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UGH! Boy if it were me at this moment when AF showed up AGAIN, I would have slugged her! Lol, no I prob. would have burst into tears so I applaud your strength in your response!
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September 19th, 2010, 09:33 PM
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You were more polite than I would have been! People like her are why some REs refuses to even see anyone after 12 months here. Heck my primary Dr made sure we had been trying over 12 months before he even referred me. He even suggested a fertility monitor and temping. I told him I was doing both.

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September 19th, 2010, 10:34 PM
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lol..yes u were really very polite..!!!yes they just dont have a clue what we are going thru..!!!

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September 20th, 2010, 12:01 AM
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I agree. You were a lot nicer than I would have been. I remember when my best friend came to me and told me she was pregnant (a month before she told both DH and I she didn't want children at all). It felt like a slap in the face because she knew we had been trying. Keep your head up! Its gonna make that BFP all that much more sweet!
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September 20th, 2010, 07:17 AM
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I think it's so important for people to talk about their infertility struggles. If people don't realize how long it typically takes for a normal healthy couple to conceive and rush out for drugs to help them, it will just make it harder and harder for the people that truly need the help to get it.

Don't feel bad for saying something... it's good that you did!

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