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January 12th, 2011, 10:34 AM
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So I'm 99% sure AF is going to show up tomorrow, and then we are moving on to IUI for the next cycle.

I'm just feeling sooo apprehensive and discouraged about everything. We were excited after DH's last SA that IUI is even an option for us now. Back in June he only had 4 million motile sperm and now he has 24 million motile. But I was looking at the information packet from our clinic and it says the success rate of IUI is only 8-10% per cycle . Now, I'm honestly wondering if we should really go through with IUI. It's not covered by our insurance (actually, as soon as we do IUI we lose our fertility insurance altogether, nothing more will be covered). Is it really worth it to lose our fertility insurance coverage and pay $500 a month for a 90-92% chance of NOT getting pregnant?

I just don't get how a "normal, healthy" couple has a 25% chance of conceiving per cycle (which BTW I don't really believe, most couples I know get pregnant within 1-2 months max) and even now that my DH's total number are normal and he has normal motility, we still only have an 8-10% chance of getting pregnant even if we give the sperm a major head start!?!? I'm wondering what our chances are on our own now? I know that when he only had 4 million motile we had like a 1% chance. What is it now, 5%? Is it really worth it to have an extra 3% chance? I'm soooo tired of stupid numbers and statistics.

I have a second opinion doctor appointment tomorrow. I have alot of questions for this new doctor, so I hope he is prepared.
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January 12th, 2011, 11:46 AM
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HUGE HUGS!! I am sorry you have to go through all this. I think trying on your own would be the best AFTER your second opinion comes in and you have thought it through completely. Maybe you need to just tweek your cycle, and when you do it, ya know?? Again, I am rootin for ya hun!

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January 12th, 2011, 01:23 PM
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That is EXACTLY why we skipped the third IUI, we somehow were in the dark about the IUI success rates and when I learned that it was only 8-10% (my RE told us the same number) I was like heck no. My insurance doesnt cover ANYTHING to do with fertilty so were werent gonna waste our money on another month (I know that it works for alot of people, I just didnt feel it was beneficial in our specific situation). So we decided we'd rather put the $1000 towards IVF (my insurance stopped covering ultrasounds so thats why its so much) and thats just for a Clomid IUI.

I know the feeling of frustration and being discouraged.

Cycle #1-9 - All Natural....5BFN's, 4BFP's (all ended in miscarriage)
Cycle #10-11 - Met with first RE, diagnosed with heterzygeous MTHFR mutation & slightly low SA on all counts. -BFN, Cycle #12 - First IUI+Trigger - BFN, Cycle #13 - BFN
Cycle #14-15 - Met with new RE, diagnosed with a blocked right tube that previous RE completely overlooked or didnt care to mention. Soy (120mg) - BFN
Cycle #16 - Clomid (100mg) - BFN, Cycle #17 - Clomid (100mg)+Trigger+IUI - BFN
Cycle #18 - Acupuncture+Clomid (100mg) - BFN
Cycle #19-27 - 2 Soy (160mg) cycles, the rest all natural also 30lbs lost!! - BFN's
Cycle #28 - New RE is GREAT! Put on bcp 7/6/11, Lap surgery 8/1/11- Tubal cyst (5cm) found and removed, Uterine Septum removed, and Stage II-III endo removed. Cycle #29 - All Natural - BFN, Cycle #30 - All Natural - BFN, Cycle#31 - All Natural - BFN, DONE TTC FOR NOW

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January 12th, 2011, 02:09 PM
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oh hun! HUGE HUGS!! I know its soo difficiult having to deal with IF let alone financing treatments when who knows what the chance is! But you just never know..your turn is coming..i know its hard to be patient..it wasnt that long ago that i was in your shoes and just felt like my turn was never coming! It hurts!

Yes a normal health couple has a 20% chance every month..i feel the same way you do..how the heck? But really it takes most couples 6 months to a year to even concieve! I know the math just doesnt add up..and it sux! But hang in there..your turn is coming! BIG HUGS!
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