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November 12th, 2008, 11:26 AM
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Is your style of parenting? Describe your parenting style. I don't want this to turn into a debate - just curious.

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November 12th, 2008, 12:10 PM
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I am really a mix between AP and Traditional so it's hard to pick one. I would have to say I lean a little more towards AP
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November 12th, 2008, 12:49 PM
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I am really a mix between AP and Traditional so it's hard to pick one. I would have to say I lean a little more towards AP[/b]

Me too. I think I am more AP than anything else. I am strict with my kids - but in a gentle way. (If that makes sense) I am firm when I need to be and I never say things that I don't mean.

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November 12th, 2008, 01:42 PM
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We lean towards authoritarian. We are the boss. Obedience and submission are trained into them from very young ages. But, as they mature, they are allowed to make more and more of their own decisions. With that freedom comes the responsibility of accepting the rewards or consequences of those choices.

It is working so far!
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November 12th, 2008, 06:55 PM
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I dont know um.. they behave or I yell at them! They are expected to do their best all the time, sometimes I go on tangents, and if their bed is not made as good as I think they can do it i'll unmake it and make them start over.
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November 12th, 2008, 07:57 PM
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We lean towards authoritarian. We are the boss. Obedience and submission are trained into them from very young ages. But, as they mature, they are allowed to make more and more of their own decisions. With that freedom comes the responsibility of accepting the rewards or consequences of those choices.

It is working so far![/b]
I would say this is how we parent as well. Lots of love and fun times together but we expect first-time obedience and they are well trained.
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November 13th, 2008, 06:43 PM
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Judging by the responses so far I guess I am much more laxed in the discipline area. We expect our kids to listen and behave, but we also understand that kids make mistakes, and can learn from them. I to spank, only for extreme things that can cause danger to themselves or someone else, or if they just do something completely utterly WRONG. I also have very sensitive children, so I need to keep that in mind when I discipline. My oldest needs only a stern look and she bursts into tears, where as my 2 y/o often needs a time-out and a simple lecture to get a point across. Just today I got a compliment b/c I was able to take all 4 children to the hair salon with me while I got my hair cut and styled. Everyone seemed amazed that my kids, all under 5 years old, behaved just fine. So I guess whatever I'm doing is working. My 2 y/o is giving me a run for my money right now though! lol
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November 17th, 2008, 10:37 AM
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November 20th, 2008, 08:55 PM
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I'm along the lines of what Farmer's wife described.

That said, we all know different styles work with different kids. Also, my first 3 kids listened really good from pretty early on, then I had a little free spirit (it's not that she was defiant, she just acted and then thought about it), and my youngest is going to change the world with her determination. Where my older kids would try once or twice, she just never gives up.
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November 22nd, 2008, 08:58 AM
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I'm an AP mama... Don't get me wrong.. I'm a work in progress lol
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November 22nd, 2008, 09:48 AM
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I'm an AP mama... Don't get me wrong.. I'm a work in progress lol[/b]
I think the key is finding what works best for YOU! I couldn't do the sling and the nursing all the time thing. It just isn't me. But I also believe there are people, intelligent, happy people, who couldn't let their baby cry to sleep, etc. I even second guess myself each time, but in the end, I go back to what really works for me! I know of some very happy AP moms. They aren't complaining. And there are very happy CIO moms, who aren't complaining. I think the ones who are complaining are the ones who are trying to do what doesn't work for them, either because that is how their friends do it or that is what the book said.

Oh, I want another baby! Oh, one last thing, cute thing #6 (15mos old) did today. I was changing his diaper this morning and he heard Elvis, the effeminate rooster, crowing outside. Then he made this adorable "arr arr arr a rooo" sound. Then we cracked up together. Those are his words now: mmm-mmm (no), mmm (this tastes good), uh-oh (uh-oh), and "arr arr arr a roo". He also does this "ts" sound when we give him something. We call it "thanks".
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