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April 9th, 2010, 02:28 PM
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For your other family members because they feel obligated to get each child bday gifts, christmas gifts etc?

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April 9th, 2010, 02:35 PM
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Yes, especially at Christmas. I often suggest a family gift instead of four presents the kids would never use anyway. We like zoo memberships, movie rental gift cards, museum memberships, games, dvds. etc.

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April 9th, 2010, 02:51 PM
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Yes!! My mom bless her heart, feels she should buy each dc something and then Dh and I also. I always tell her if she "must" then just do for the dc and skip me anyway and dh.
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April 9th, 2010, 03:07 PM
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We only have a few relatives that do that and they seem to enjoy it. My DH's Grandma, bless her heart, has six kids, 15 grandchildren, 19 great-grandchildren, and two great-great grandchildren...and she sends my kids cards for all the holidays (Easter, St Patty's Day, etc.) Not only that but she send them each a card addressed only to them, which they LOVE.
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April 9th, 2010, 04:21 PM
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YES! Very guilty! I like the idea of suggesting on family gift, I think I might try that. However, Dh's grandma insists on giving every single grandchild and great grandchild $10 for birthdays and Christmas, my kids alone are getting $100 a year from this poor woman. It just makes me feel so bad
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April 9th, 2010, 04:57 PM
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we as a family have decided that birthday gifts are completely optional. if you don't/can't, then don't. as for christmas, we do an exchange. that way each person gets a gift and we don't have to buy 21 different gifts, we only buy/make 1 per person in our family (7). makes it much cheaper and no one has to feel guilty.

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April 9th, 2010, 08:32 PM
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I don't feel bad. In my family my kids are the only kids in the family and everybody LOVES buying toys.. I ask them not to go crazy with them. Tell them we don't have room for it all. No one listens, so I don't feel one iota of guilt. With my inlaws, I don't feel guilty at all because they all have at least 3 children of their own that we buy for as well but we don't buy for adults in dh's family so it evens things out.
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April 9th, 2010, 10:29 PM
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No, I don't think anyone feels obligated.

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April 9th, 2010, 11:22 PM
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My Mom always wants to buy them each something. I've suggested family gifts but she wants them to have something to open when they are younger. I think as they kids get older she will be more comfortable with a membership to the zoo, museum, etc.
Alison - Mom to: Emmeline (7/14), Augustus (2) Maximus (4) Eleanor (5) Reid (6) Evelyn (8) Lucas (13) Christopher (14)

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April 10th, 2010, 07:48 AM
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Yes. I try to suggest other gifts as the house is overrun with toys as it is. But I like the family gift idea Shari. I'm going to have to think about that...

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April 10th, 2010, 07:59 AM
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My Dad sends money for the kids on their birthdays in a card, and money via Western U for xmas no matter what I say. I don't even get so much as an email from my mother.
The ex's family can do as they choose of course since I really don't care

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April 10th, 2010, 10:25 AM
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From my mom and grandma...yes. They help me all year round with stuff, like my mom just helped pay my gas bill, or my grandma gave me $100 "just for my pocket".....so I tell them, we are all good, my kids aren't lacking and NOT to buy them all gifts. Now, do they listen....NO.
My grandma always gets the kids something, so I always suggest pajamas, socks or underwear.
My mom is hopeless, she always goes overboard.
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April 10th, 2010, 02:39 PM
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I do feel guilty at times....but it's one of those things...where when we had ONE kid...they spent a bundle on that ONE kid...now that we have four...they spend about the same...divided by 4..LOL...so I think the more kids we have the smaller the gifts will be...which is fine by me.
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April 11th, 2010, 10:56 AM
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my four are the only little kids in our families right now, the rest are all over 24. Right now most of them are taking the easy way out for gifts, and just give us cash to contribute to one big gift-we just got the four kids a big play house and three Little Tikes cars for the two birthdays and Easter gifts-works for me since I'm tired of picking up a million little toys off the floor three times a day They still get little gifts, but this way is working really well for us right now.

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