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August 20th, 2011, 05:18 AM
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So, the thing is that we were only ever going to have 2 dc. We had our DD first and then when she was 22 months old our DS came along and we were the 'perfect' family. Until our little redheaded 'surprise' DS2 made an entrance when DS1 was 3 years old. Then we were really sure we were done but DS2 was just so darn cute with his curly red hair and freckles (you would die if you saw this cutie), that we decided to round off our little family with a fourth and final (I hate odd numbers). And we were blessed with another girl, so how much more perfect can you get than TWO pigeon pairs!

Unfortunately we are now in the cutie stage again with the curls and the little toofies coming through. I told dh that this is the dangerous time when babies start to get so ridiculously cute that you can't help but want another one. And so over the past few days he has mentioned a couple of times the idea of having another one and asked what I would say if he said he wanted another. To which I replied that he's the voice of reason when it comes to having babies not me, I could have a truckload! And he said yes of course what was he thinking, etc, etc. and then later on the same day while he was squeezing and kissing the life out of our precious 14 month old bubble, he said that he would love another one - really, twice in one day!?

Should I just ignore this or strike while the iron is hot, so to speak?
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August 20th, 2011, 07:26 AM
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I say go for it. You never can have too many
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August 20th, 2011, 08:13 AM
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It sounds like the desire is there for both of you.
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August 20th, 2011, 08:38 AM
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Just have sex like normal married people and don't worry about having one or not. I really think people put way too much thought or concern into preventing a child. But then others might think I don't put enough thought into it.
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August 20th, 2011, 01:30 PM
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I would go for it! Ill be so excited when dh agrees to a 5th
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August 20th, 2011, 01:40 PM
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If you are both wanting another baby and you think you can handle/afford and have space for another than I say why not? I would definitely have a few more if didnt have such horrible pregnancies.
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August 20th, 2011, 01:44 PM
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If it were me I would go for it
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August 20th, 2011, 02:29 PM
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I agree with Farmers Wife....to me it just takes too much energy to try to prevent. With that said I SAY GOOOOOOO for it!
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August 20th, 2011, 10:43 PM
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Well, my fertility is starting to wane and I am 39 in November. So if it happens it happens I guess. Now just to convince dh that he should go with his heart and not his head!
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August 21st, 2011, 12:29 PM
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Just have sex like normal married people and don't worry about having one or not. I really think people put way too much thought or concern into preventing a child. But then others might think I don't put enough thought into it.
Love this. I would love for DH to suggest another, it's always me begging. So at least he's on board.
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August 22nd, 2011, 11:45 AM
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I always got baby fever at a certain age with my kids too, right around 6m - a year lol. If I hadn't got my tubes tied I'd probably keeping having more. I was so upset and even considered lookign into a tubal reversal my baby fever was so bad.

but I got passed it and now that he's 3 and done with diapers and middle of the night feedings and all that stuff I'm happy with our decision to stop at 4, I know we really just couldn't handle any more.
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August 22nd, 2011, 06:42 PM
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I say go for it!!!!
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August 22nd, 2011, 10:06 PM
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@ Butterfly, I get what you're saying and I think it's the same for us. We just need to get through this 'baby fever' stage which I'm sure is a God-given human desire and once she is passed all the nappies and naps, etc. we will see how awesome it can be with more 'independant' children and be able to move on with our lives. But this stage is really hard - just wish she wasn't so gosh-darn cute!

DH is back to being an accountant and his moment of 'insanity' has passed so unless we got legless drunk one night right around ovulation and he didn't withdraw in time, we'll be sticking to the 4 we've got
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August 23rd, 2011, 10:55 AM
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I would probably be the opposite and get mad at dh if he wanted to have another, it's easy for him to suggest when I have to do most of the work.

You know, we do get frustrated with our dh's when they go all "accountant" but I think there is something to appreciate about your spouse considering his role as provider. Men and woman are very different and I think us girls sometimes don't quite get the extent to which our husbands feel that pressure.

That said, you can still try and get him drunk one night
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