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August 7th, 2012, 02:58 PM
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What age do you think it's appropriate to sleep at the opposite gender's house til?

The lady that used to live next-door took Jayde overnight a few days ago. She asked me if Sydney could spend the night tonight, but I said absolutely not with her behavior lately, so she asked about Noah spending the night there. She has a daughter that is 14 or 15? In 8th grade. Noah is 11. I said he's a little too old to be spending the night with a girl friend. I think she got upset with me, but whatever. Not that I think anything would happen, but then again I don't really trust her kid.

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August 7th, 2012, 03:04 PM
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I have never had a problem with it. As long as their is no love interest then I don't worry about it.

My oldest girl had one girl friend growing up, and many guy friends growing up. They stayed the night all the time...even with her younger sisters in the house.
my other dd's bestfriend had a paper route out by us, not anywhere near where she lived so when she was done she would come here and sleep. Didn't matter if my girls were here or not. I wouldn't tell her no just cause my son's were the only ones home.

I think it comes down to how much you can trust the persons house they are staying at, and how much you trust your child. Now if I thought for even a millisecond that there was a love interest...my answer would be no.
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August 7th, 2012, 05:01 PM
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That's never really came up but I don't think I would allow it past elementary school age (unless they are related). So I guess age 9. But, that could change if it did ever come up.
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August 7th, 2012, 06:33 PM
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If there is no romantic interest there then I don't care. By that logic I shouldn't allow Dita to sleep over at any of her female friend's houses, but she has many platonic female friends, as does Azriel. I don't see what is inappropriate about sleepovers with friends, but thenm our house is the "open door friends always over" house, so I see it first hand, and nothing goes on, they just stay up all night making all kinds of racket watching movies and eating all our food.
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August 7th, 2012, 07:03 PM
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hmmmm not sure, never happened, maybe like momtothe6th said....elementary age.
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August 7th, 2012, 08:40 PM
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9, maybe 10. The only boys we've ever done sleepovers with is cousins, and it seems like that is just coming to a natural end now that the kids are getting bigger.
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August 7th, 2012, 08:52 PM
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I wouldn't allow it at any age. I just told my kids that girls have sleepover with girls, and boys have sleepovers with boys. They can hang out with their opposite sex friends during the day.

And no way to 11 and 15....that's kind of a big age gap anyway.
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August 8th, 2012, 07:00 AM
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My girls are 9 and 8 (tomorrow) and they spend the night there sometimes, which is a big age gap for them to be 'friends' too. It's more the mom misses living nextdoor to us and wants to take them overnight I guess. I still stick by my no though. He's got plenty of boy friends, that live closer, that he can spend the night at their houses. Plus he sleeps over so often I barely see the kid! lol

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