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February 18th, 2013, 05:32 PM
Join Date: Feb 2012
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Hello..I'm not a mommy but I wanted you guys advice. I don't want to go my parents just yet because I know,it's going end up with all us in trouble. My family is mostly girls ranging from 1 year old to 16 years old but in the middle of this there is two boys age 10 and 8. The problem is my two brothers 10 and 8 ear old like to getting into the toys, jewelry and clothing of my 12 year old and 7 year old sisters. My sisters respond in their typical fashion which is they scream and punch their brothers. My brothers return the favor by punching and kicking their sisters, I usually get in the middle and try to find peace between them. Do you guys have any suggestion to try find the peace between my 12 year old and 7 year old sisters and my 8 year old and 10 year old brother. I'm tired of playing referee between them, I'm scared it might scale to real fight and somebody get hurt.
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February 18th, 2013, 05:50 PM
Farmers-wife's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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It is super sweet of you to try and step in and help work this out. The boys need to learn respect for others private property. Do your sister respect the boys stuff and not mess with it? Also the girls need to be sure their things are put away, not laying around for others to mess with. But mostly the boys need to not mess with it, even if it is in the middle of the floor. As for the girls reaction, do they have an authority they can appeal to that the boys will listen to and respect? If there are no boundaries or respect, the fighting and squabbling will continue.
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February 18th, 2013, 07:16 PM
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My 7 year old sister usually picks her stuff up because she shares her room with my 12 year old sister who is very picky about her room being neat. She usually never leaves stuff in the room or on the floor, she is organize about putting her barbies in her toy chest and her other toys in the corner. My 12 year old sister doesn't get into the boys thing, she is occupy with her fashion, reading her Tiger Beat and Cosmopolitan and listening to her boy bands. My 7 year old knows she can appeal first to me if I can't help then she can appeal to my daddy. The boys will listen and respect my parents, the boys know mom can be soft with them but my dad will not tolerate them fighting with their sisters. I just don't want to get my parents involve yet,I rather try to solve this between us before my dad gets involve and the boys get grounded.

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February 18th, 2013, 07:23 PM
2pinks&ablue's Avatar Chantelle
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Location: NB, Canada
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Like she said, very sweet of you to want to help!

Could you sit your brother's down and talk to them about it before the fight starts? Ask them how they would feel if your sisters did the same things to them?
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February 18th, 2013, 07:51 PM
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Talking to my brothers seems like a good idea, I never have tried it. I usually talk to them after they fight. I think I'm going use the advice and talk to them before the fight starts and see if that helps situation. I want try to defuse this before my dad gets involve and the boys get the grounding of the century because my dad has told them you are nice and don't fight or pick on girls. It just hard situation because I want side with my sisters but I got be impartial and try help both sides.
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