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July 30th, 2014, 04:21 AM
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Hi everyone!

Just got my BFP yesterday. Our kids are 7, 5 and 2.5.

I am terrified. We were supposed to be done and I had just started looking forward to the 'post-baby' phase. I will be 38 when baby is born and I am so tired and overwhelmed all the time even without being pregnant. So many things going through my mind. I don't even want to think about college. And I can't wait until the comments start coming in - we told everyone we were done DH on the other hand is thrilled. He's always wanted 4. It's nice that he is so excited - I'm sure it's only a matter of time before my brain gets over the shock and catches up.

So that's me. 4 kids, here we come!
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July 30th, 2014, 08:50 AM
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Welcome! Every baby, IMO, is a blessing and meant to be. Congrats!!!

I am Jen, pregnant with #12 (edd 10-31). My boys are 19, 17, 15, 13, 7, 5, and 2. My girls are 11, 8, 4 and almost 1. I will be 41 when this baby is born (gasp!! LOL)
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July 30th, 2014, 09:20 AM
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I am the other Jen, mine are 23, 22, 22 (almost), 20, 13, 10, 7 (almost 8) and 4.

I was done at baby number 7, and pissed with baby number 8, but as Jen said they are all a blessing. Once the shock wears off you'll be fine
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July 31st, 2014, 01:02 AM
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Congrats. I'm due with #10 in January, so it will be February.

As long as you act apologetic for having #4 people will be forgiving, but by god don't be happy about it or plan for 5 because that is unforgivable.

Why are you so tired and overwhelmed? What can we do to help?
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July 31st, 2014, 06:52 AM
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Thanks for the welcome. Ds3 is my January turned February baby.

We considered #4 after ds3 was born. But I really didn't think another pregnancy was right for our family. I even told people that I'd love a fourth *kid* but didn't want to go through the 9 months and baby stage again. It's really hard on my hormones and mental state. So I've been focusing on all the positives of having 3 and playing up the overwhelming-ness of 4 in my mind. Until a few days ago. I have a bit of whiplash.

Farmers-wife - so many things! Lack of sleep is a big one. My youngest is still not sleeping through the night. DH and I are not in the best place and argue a lot. We've been talking about counseling for ages - guess it's time to actually do something about it. And I suffer from depression - I normally cope with it pretty well but I think it's been creeping back and causing a lot of negative feelings. Finances are always a worry. I've just signed on to teach music at a preschool for a few hours a week - baby is due a few weeks before their spring concert. And I feel I'm not organized enough for 4 - I'm barely on top of things as it is!

Having said all that - my heart knows that we will make it work. We haven't really told anyone yet and it's nice to have others to talk to that understand. I know that 4 is not a huge family - it just feels that way when you're on this side of it. Thanks for the support and listening to my rambling worries
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July 31st, 2014, 07:37 AM
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I'm sorry things are difficult. Depression and spousal disharmony are really hard. One day at a time and all that. Get some good counseling for you two. We are here to listen. Is there a reason 3 isn't sleeping through the night?
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July 31st, 2014, 09:05 AM
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Other than sheer stubbornness?

We co-sleep and night weaned months ago. He just randomly wakes up every few hours asking to nurse. I offer him a drink of water and he goes back to sleep until about 5am. If we don't nurse at that point, we're up for the day so it just depends on how tired I am. My other two both slept fine as soon as they were night weaned and then we transitioned them to their own bed so I assumed it would be similar with this one. I may just have to try this the opposite way and transition him to his own bed (or with a sibling) and see if that helps.
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August 1st, 2014, 10:27 AM
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Welcome here

And congrats on the pregnancy, I'm sure you will be excited once the shock wears off. One day at a time...
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August 1st, 2014, 11:19 AM
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Congratulations! I have four as well, and it is really not much harder than three. You are already doing all the work now...the cooking, the cleaning, the diapers...it is not so hard to add one more to the fold.

I've also had one bad sleeper, so my sympathies there. Maybe you can your dh to help tuck him back in bed....
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August 1st, 2014, 03:37 PM
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Congrats on #4. I find that my kids sleep better when they are in a room other than mine, particularly when I'm still nursing and they are old enough. I don't really want my kids in my room after about a year, though. I swear that #5 would have NEVER slept through the night if I hadn't moved him with one of his sisters.
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August 3rd, 2014, 01:01 PM
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Welcome and congrats
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August 3rd, 2014, 03:39 PM
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Welcome! Congratulations and best of luck with your worries, I look forward to getting to know you.
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August 11th, 2014, 12:55 PM
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Welcome congratulations on #4 you will do just fine I am sure
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