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November 7th, 2006, 02:02 PM
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What is the best age difference between kids? And why?

My ds is almost 8 mos old and we know we want another one but the ques. is when? So many have told us to have them back to back. But what does that mean, a year apart, 2 years, 3 years? Dh is ready & willing to go for it now but if I get pregnant right away then the kids will be a year and 6 months apart. I worry that this won't be enough time for my first one to have us all to himself. Anyways I'm rambling. I'd appreciate your input!

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November 7th, 2006, 02:19 PM
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Mine are 2 years apart (26 months, actually) and I like it. They do fight but they also play SO well together. My siblings and I were all 2 years apart too.

I read recently that the healthiest thing to do is try to get one baby to 18 months before conceiving another. That's not bad spacing -- you end up with kids just about 2.5 years apart.

My experience and observation has led me to think that the closer they are spaced, the harder it is at first and the easier it is later. The further they are spaced, the easier it is at first and the harder it is later.
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November 7th, 2006, 02:40 PM
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My first 3 are pretty close (there's 1 year and 3 months between the first 2; and 2 years between the next 2) and then there's a big space and then my next batch is pretty close (#4 and #5 are 1 1/2 years apart, then #5 and #6 are almost 2 years apart and then #6 and #7 will be a year apart). I think 2 years is good. It gives the first one time to walk, dress, eat, and maybe potty train by the time the baby comes. Gives them time to get a little more independant before being moved into the 'big sister/brother' position.

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November 7th, 2006, 03:54 PM
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i like a 2-3 year gap best.
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November 7th, 2006, 05:05 PM
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My smallest gap is 18 months and my largest is 6 years...

I think I like a smaller rather than a larger gap - about the 20 months to 30 months range; I think the comment from Fern about 'easier/harder' is a pretty good way of viewing it!

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November 7th, 2006, 08:31 PM
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My boys are almost 2 years apart (22 months)....they have always been close and each others best friends! They are now 18 and 16 and are still as close as ever.

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November 11th, 2006, 06:20 PM
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I like 18 to 24 month the best. My older 3 are 18 months apart (3 in 3 years) and then the 4th is 24 months younger. Julia is 3 years younger, and I find that plenty much of an age gap, I like it for me, but I think it's nicer for the child not to be too much younger than the next. (but maybe that's more my own "trauma" being 4 years younger than my brother).
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November 13th, 2006, 03:25 PM
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IF I could have a second, I would wait until my youngest was 2.5 to ttc. For both health reasons and financial (paying for preschool and so forth).

But I think it's a personal preference.

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November 13th, 2006, 09:00 PM
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