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August 21st, 2005, 12:28 PM
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Hi. I'm new here and should probably say that I'm not vegetarian right now, but am working on it. I'm following (for health reasons) the diet that the ancient chinese follow, which suggests that you severely limit or avoid animal foods.

Anyway, I'm at a loss on how to handle social eating... my son at preschool, my son on playdates, my son at church snack socials... everywhere we go, food is offered that's on our "minimize" list.

People seem to get offended, as though I'm judging their food choices, and I don't know what to say, and usually just end up leaving the event early, or avoiding the food tables altogether, but it's hard for ds (3) to understand why all the other kids can have 25 cookies (or ham n cheese crackers or whatever) and he can't have any. To explain it in front of others (while he has the food in hand) makes me sound critical of them.

any thoughts?


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August 22nd, 2005, 06:34 PM
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I am a vegetarian and I let people know. They don't have a problem with it. I am not picky though about sugars or white flours, etc. I would suggest telling your child ahead of time what to do and to expect. Also, if people don't like your choices, just be polite. Tough luck to them, in my opinion.

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August 23rd, 2005, 09:19 AM
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I'm a little less picky when we go out. I don't worry too much if this one time she eats white bread instead of whole wheat, or only one type of veggie, and no protein. I just see it as it's only 1 meal. Kids are so picky anyway that sometimes even at home they don't eat as well as you'd like. I always call ahead and make sure the have veggetarian food, if not, we usually pack our own.

I have a lot of friends whole also see it as a jab at them, when their kids offer my DD a bag of chips and I say no. What does a 19mo need chips for??? I always see their children get tired cranky about an hour after lunch (hot dogs and fries, etc.) and I KNOW it's from their food choices, but hey..it's their kids and it's not my place to say anything anymore then it's their place to say anything to me. People are different, and we all have to repect that.

You do what you feel is best for your son. Other people will always judge, thats what people do. Just don't judge them, and know that you are giving your Son the best start on making healthy choices himself later on in life.
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September 2nd, 2005, 09:25 PM
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Well, my son knows why we don't eat the animals. And he is 6 so now he is his own spokesperson. He just tells the person that he doesn't eat animals. They just deal with it. Sorry, my kid. Matt's mom tried to give my kids chicken when they visited and man I was blowing hot smoke out of my nose! I am sure of it. Eli said I don't eat chicken. LOL LOL LOL! You could tell she was a bit wierd about it. Matthew is going to talk to her. Just get your kids strong in your family values. Sure they may have different ones when they are older...but for now they see this as our way of life. They think everyone else is strange. When my kids see a fast food commercial they say EWWWWW! LOL! I love it...no I adore it!

I usually do pack snacks in my purse and if we are going to be a social gathering we make a dish or two and bring it along.
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November 1st, 2005, 11:50 PM
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ya..you know..if the hosts dont know me well enough to know that i am a super strick vegan, and i dont eat any white sugars and such, i have no problem to say..no thanks..i already ate!

my friend know me so well that they wouldnt invite me unless they knew there was something there!

i dont think it is rude. would it be rude to turn down a puff on a ciggertte in a room of smokers>?!?!

heheheh...but i am not anal, and dont make people feel bad. its
all about them respecting your values.

~MissyPE..i enjoyed what you wrote, and i hope that my child makes a strong case for his/her choices as well! you must be proud!
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