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September 1st, 2009, 12:39 PM
tundrababy's Avatar Mega Super Twin Mommy
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Maybe you other mamas don't have this problem but I have got myself a pair of evil/good twins. Owen *sigh* where do I start with this kid. When he is happy,he is the most contagiously bubbly baby but when he's not, which seems to be alot lately, he is horrible. Nothing makes him happy, he's becoming a worse napper, a total PITA to feed, refused to BF and is still up at least 2 times a night. Rhys on the other hand is my poor neglected baby - I often wondered if he is going to think his name is 'hold-on Rhys' as it seems I am always dealing with Owen. He is so good- natured, sweet, loving, a wonderful nurser - basically everything Owen is not!!! He has been sleeping the night through for a while and can even sleep through all of Owen's racket. I realize I could have had two babies with Owen's temperament so it could be worse, but I worry that I am treating them differently and they will realize it.I definitely don't want them labeled as good twin/bad twin but its hard not to do.

Sorry for my vent, I feel like such a bad mom -
Jen, mom to Danika 6, and twins Owen & Rhys 3 (how did that happen!?!)

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September 1st, 2009, 01:33 PM
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my mother has been making sure i do not give one baby more attention than the other. I don't, I make sure of it. That being said, Cameron has always been more needy, but with two, you need to give attention to both. SO, do not put down the "good" twin just to calm the other twin.

Owen may be teething, or may just want more attention. If you give Owen more attention, he's going to keep asking for it. You are definitely not being a bad mommy for putting Rhys down to tend to Owen during his time of need, but you may have to use some tough love in order to give Rhys his due attention. Eventually Owen will realize that if he does not "need" you at the moment, he'll have to wait his turn. I did some tough love with Cameron and he's much more patient now and less fussy when I am play with Kiefer. He'll still try to push Kiefer out of the say seeing that I won't do it. I just pick Kiefer back up and play with Cameron when I'm ready. He does give up and wait without fuss. I just make sure I give Cameron the attention he requested. He is my bubbly sweetheart of a baby, but it took patience to get through his needy stage. He always gets tons of lovin' from mommy even when Kiefer is having his needy moments.
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September 1st, 2009, 11:08 PM
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My evil one is Hurricane (the name should have said it all) and Eclipse is my quiet patient one who never cries. When Hurricane is asleep I pay extra attention to her because Hurricane is so demanding when he's awake.
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September 5th, 2009, 05:32 PM
FoxyJennRN's Avatar Jenn's the name
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Ahhh, you ladies are making me relive the early days, I don't want to! LOL. The good news is, my "good" baby is now the more outgoing, more needy, more dramatic, and my "bad" baby is AMAZINGLY great.

They'll get their own attention in due time. Don't stress too much about it now.
Jenn, mom to
Kayla, 15
Spencer and Samantha, 8
Baby due 10/26

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September 5th, 2009, 08:32 PM
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Sofia was my more difficult newborn. Why, I have no clue as she weighed more! Maya was content in the swing, and Sofia had to be held. I felt guilty for just putting Maya in the swing, but you do what you have to do! Try not to feel guilty. They will switch at some point! Mine now rotate who is needier

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September 5th, 2009, 09:14 PM
Just_Marie's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I just spent 2 hours rocking the "eviler" one to sleep while the first one fell asleep on his own in his crib--they seem to take turns at being "eviler" to me...

Lucky mother to five!

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September 6th, 2009, 10:52 AM
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Preston is the "evil" twin! They are both needy in their own way, but he is a cryer. So much time is spent either soothing him or spending time with Jasmine because she's the good and happy one! I feel guilty sometimes, because I find myself only noticing the negative things he does.
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