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March 5th, 2012, 09:15 AM
KimberlyAnn327's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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How on earth has it only been 3 weeks and a day since they've been born? I don't want to sound ungrateful or like I don't love them, but I'm so exhausted and this 2 at a time thing is really difficult. And my 3 year old and 18 month old make things even harder. Today I had to stop my 18 month old from feeding Seth a piece of popcorn. Anyway, I just needed to have a little vent. I seriously can't believe it's only been 3 weeks. It easily seems like it's been twice that. I just needed to share where maybe someone can understand. I really enjoy the times that dh is here to help and we each have a baby and the older kids are in bed. It's peaceful and enjoyable.

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March 5th, 2012, 12:36 PM
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Hello there mama!

Indeed, even though it's only been three weeks you've done six weeks worth of baby care! It's hard! And you deserve a nap. And a shower.

It's okay!! They'll be fine and you'll be fine, even if you all have a billion meltdowns in the meantime. Meltdowns are okay!

Know what else is okay? Shortcuts. On dinner, on laundry, on everything. Take care of babies and you, and enlist help for everything else. Help might only be hubby and, guess what? - that's okay too.

I think for most of us, the first few weeks (around 6 maybe?) was kind of a blur. Almost no sleep, most of us had next-to-no help, someone else has to figure out food if anyone is to eat, etc. It's kind of blurry, but hang on Momma it gets better!!!

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March 5th, 2012, 08:13 PM
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I remember that time too well ... and I can only imagine dealing with two toddlers also! I don't imagine you ever get all 4 napping at once to give you a chance to do the same. I second the take shortcuts with everything non-kid related advice.

Dishes? Forget it - that's why paper plates were invented
Dinner? Frozen lasagna sounds great

If you can manage to get a shower in while DH is home though, I recommend those. They helped me feel human.
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March 5th, 2012, 11:39 PM
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one day soon....this happened around 2 months for me....things just became easier. Then the beauty of it all really started to come through.

hang in there
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March 6th, 2012, 06:36 PM
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Hang in there. It can be so rough in the beginning. It will get better. Right now you just have to be in survival mode. It doesn't matter what gets done aroudn the house. As long as everyone stays safe you're doing fine.

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March 6th, 2012, 10:10 PM
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Each day will get a little bit better, momming multiples is nothing like momming singletons, its a whole new experience-take it one breath at a time

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March 7th, 2012, 08:42 PM
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Love my girls but I wouldnt relive those first 8 weeks for anything. Dont worry if everything else goes out the window. We spent a lot of time in our pjs watching cartoons and eating dry cereal on the couch. A few months of survival is what matters.
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April 17th, 2012, 07:56 PM
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I so know how you feel, I went through that too. I was so overwhelmed with triplets and when DH was working late, I'd sit and literally just cry. Hard, hard, hard! Anyone that says different has got to be lying!!! For me, things got better around 2 months or so. They started sleeping through the night then and it just got better! Sleep was the main thing for me. I thought, If I can get a good bit of sleep, I can handle anything. But yes, that beginning part is a blur. Hang in there!
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April 22nd, 2012, 08:42 AM
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Oh, just seeing this now!! Hang in there! I hope things are now a bit better for you. Ask your OB about post partum depression. I was on meds before getting pregnant for depression, but even so my OB was hesitant to put me back on them until he was sure it was not just "typical" baby blues. The first few weeks were SO hard for me. SO hard. I felt exactly like you do. Know that it WILL get better. You will get through it. If there is any way at all that someone could take care of them while you get sleep, do it. Feel free to send me a message, I know just how you feel. Mine are 4 now!!! It will always be difficult- and I can't imagine how difficult w/ 2 other toddlers!!! Wow. Get somebody to help out. Hugs!

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May 1st, 2012, 11:14 AM
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oooh I remember those first few weeks so very clearly. It does get better! I joke when I talk to women pregnant with twins. . .Take a lot of pictures of the first 6 weeks because you're not going to remember a thing!. . .it's horrible but very true.

Your post made me teary eyed just remembering how hopeless I felt. I hope you're feeling better today. I had a 14 month old and a 6 year old as well as the nb twins so our children have pretty similar age gaps.

You can do this! 3-4 more weeks and it will get better every day. By six months you might actually be happy there are two instead of one and by 10 months to a year you might even use the term "Fun". the past couple weeks I have been tickled pink that I've got two girls instead of one and I'm not ashamed to admit that it took me this long. (my girls are 12 mos)
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