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March 7th, 2014, 08:00 PM
Spottts's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I don't know if we have anyone lurking with older twins but if we do... when to separate?

E and V are in first grade. They've always been together. Most of the time it was because the child care was small so there was only one class for their level. But, as a teacher I know all teachers aren't the same so I want them together so I know they're receiving the same instruction. They aren't identical (at all in my mind) and have quite different personalities so they're not ever confused for the other.

The problem is V is tired of being with E. She said she never gets a break from being with her. E does talk from the minute she opens her eyes until she goes to sleep at night. Their teacher moved them away from each other in class so that has helped. But I'm not sure what to do next year when they go into 2nd grade. Do I try to keep them together for another year or separate them? They don't get into trouble because of the other. (Well, they do at home but not at school.)

In 3rd grade (what I teach) they'll be in separate homerooms but have the same teachers for reading/writing and math/science so I know the requirements/grading will be the same.

When did you separate your school age twins?
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March 8th, 2014, 01:43 PM
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I say separate them. I have 2 nieces that are the same age and in the same class… They had to be separated. And since, both have been doing much better. Since V is already saying that she is tired of being with E… I say… It is time!

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March 12th, 2014, 08:32 PM
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If they're asking, then I'd seperate them. They can always go back together the next year. My girls are only 4. They had 2 years of preschool together and this year I separated them. They're identical and no one can tell them apart. I wanted a year where kids called them by their own name. Plus, this year was all about social development. They love being apart, but have asked to be together again next year. I have talked to their current teachers and them and have decided that they can be together again. I want to always take their wishes into consideration.

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March 18th, 2014, 06:25 PM
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Thanks guys,

I'm going to separate them as long as the two teachers I want are still at my school. These two teachers work well and plan together so I know the girls will be getting about the same instruction. V will go with the teacher who is more math minded as that's a strength of hers. E would just know she has a candy stash and ask her about it daily! My principal allows requests so it won't be a problem but I'm not letting it be known around the school that I'm putting in a request. The teacher who had my older DD wants them both, so she thinks. Lol. They're not quiet like my oldest.

They're both in the gifted program so they'll still take the bus one day a week to the other school and be in the same class there.
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April 1st, 2014, 09:21 AM
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i'm just lurking and i don't have twins but i AM a twin. i have a twin brother, and i can remember, all our lives (up until probably senior year) my mom made it her mission to have us in seperate classes. ever since kindergarden. and i never understood why until senior year.

it turned out we had taken an elective together (she had requested at the school that we by no means have any mandatory classes together) and at 18 years old we were super disruptive together lol. we were both class clowns when we were apart, so having us together .. well i felt bad for the teacher. we would shoot things at each other and constantly crack jokes. when the teacher tried to seperate us, we still did the same things it just became more of a disruption because the challenge was harder.

when my mom found out we were in the class together she hit the roof. i told her it was no big deal that we were in class together and she said it was because whichever teacher had us we were going to drive insane.

but i can see what your kids are saying about always being together. it was actually nice to have MY teacher in school and MY friends. i would leave it up to them. it may be hard at first, but they will def bloom into themselves like that.
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April 13th, 2014, 04:27 PM
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I plan to separate my twins once they are in first grade. It's a long way off since they're still babies, but I'm a teacher too and I plan ahead I've had twins in my class and there were many times where one was favored over her sister as a playmate by the other students. I would think, like rachelc0 says, it would be nice for them to have their own teacher and their own friends.
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May 27th, 2014, 11:04 AM
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I didn't have a choice. When they started Kindergarten they were separated. However, we moved to a small school district recently so they are now in the same class. They have done fine with both.
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