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July 26th, 2009, 03:41 PM
SimplyJenalee's Avatar Super Mommy
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I have so many mixed emotions with this pregnancy...especially about setting up the nursery...again. DH wants to start moving the place around to get the nursery set up. Right now we have 3 bedrooms...ours, a computer room, and the guest room. Up until last december the guest room was the nursury...the computer room was the guest room...and the computer was out in the living room. (haha hope that made sense...kinda confusing writing it) Now DH wants to start moving everything back around to get the nursery cleared out so we can start setting it up again.

I am sooo hesitant to set up the nursery again...is that bad? I know deep down that everything will be okay this pregnancy but I can't help but think I don't want to have to pack it all up again. He wants to get everything going though.

I have been doing super good with this pregnancy, I for the most part have let myself get super excited and look at the baby stuff and everything. I even finally picked out her name...Tessa Marie...I wasn't going to choose a name until the end but I needed to pick a name.

Anyway...I guess I just needed a vent more than anything.
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July 26th, 2009, 05:35 PM
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I understand why you would feel hesitant about it. We never really set up the nursery for Roald and afterward I wished we had so I had a room in which to sit and cry. I'm actually anxious to set up the nursery because I think it will make the idea of Vera coming home with us more of a reality. But then again....if I had had it set up for Roald and had to take everything down like you had I would probably be at least a litle scared at the prospect of putting it up again.

This pregnancy honestly seems to be nothing but mixed emotions. If I feel happy, there is sadness to it. If I feel anxious, there is a calmness to it. It is very weird but I think it will always be like this from now on.

I think it's great you picked a name! I love being able to call baby by his or her actual name while I'm carrying. I also think Alyssa and Tessa sound like good "sister" names, if that makes sense lol.
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July 27th, 2009, 04:29 PM
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I didn't buy any baby stuff for Owen until about 3-4 weeks until he was born. I was waiting because i didn't want to get too hopeful and jinx myself, sounds crazy I know. When I did go through the things we kept from Jake I cried a lot but it was good to have things set up and clothes washed. It really sucks that it's not a purely joyful time.
I really like the name you chose

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July 27th, 2009, 05:48 PM
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I think I would have a hard time setting it up too. We already had the co-sleeper in our room because Evie was stil using it, and yet taking it down was still painful, knowing I wouldn't use it for Colm.

I think with my next pregnancy, if I do have one, I will wait to set things up. Since there is not much chance we will have a nursery anyway, I guess it doesn't matter. It only takes a few minutes to set up the co-sleeper, so it can wait until I get home.

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July 27th, 2009, 07:34 PM
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I sat down today with DH and we talked about everything. We both decided that we need to be cautious but also excited about this pregnancy. SO I am taking a huge step and going to get he nursery together. As my DH said...by not setting it up...its like im expecting something bad to happen and he doesn't want to think about anything negative. So I can see where he is coming from. So Ahead I go with decorating....spent lots of time today working on some crafty items for the nursery and it made me really excited.
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July 27th, 2009, 10:50 PM
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oh Jen, I totally understand where you're coming from and although I'm not as far along as you are yet, I know I'm already worrying about similar stuff. I actually made a thread that was similar to how you're feeling.

You want so badly to feel confident about this pregnancy and put the nursery together, but at the same time you freak out that you could be jinxing yourself for doing that. I completely understand that *feeling*.

I have a very strong feeling that your beautiful Tessa Marie (beautiful name, btw) will be healthy and you will bring her home safely with you in December!

ETA: I saw your pics of the nursery on f/b and it looks so beautiful! You've done an amazing job!!!

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July 28th, 2009, 09:28 AM
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I am, unfortunately, feeling the same way. By this time last year, I had announced the pregnancy to everyone and their brother-in-law. I had both nurseries set up. I had names secured.

This year, only my family, close friends, and FIVE co-workers know. I haven't even told my boss yet is how hesitant I am about announcing it, yet I vowed that I will enjoy every moment of this pregnancy.

I HATE having such mixed feelings. It's like, I don't want to announce this to the world until we have a kicking, screaming, heart-beating baby in my arms

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