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July 15th, 2009, 07:34 PM
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Would you allow your child to have a middle name that you don't really care for if it meant that your SO allowed you to have your favorite first name that he doesn't really care for? What if it's a middle name you hate? Would it make it worth it to have your perfect first name?
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July 15th, 2009, 07:48 PM
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I'm not a huge fan of Laylah's second mn Tonimae. It's growing on me now. It's always been an ok name for me. DH and I chose it to honor family on both sides. I don't regret it for a second. We don't have any "deal" though for next time. I wouldn't mind it though. LOL!
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July 15th, 2009, 07:52 PM
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I would if I didn't absolutely hate the name he picked. In fact I wasn't crazy over Neil's MN, David, when DH first picked it. I let him use it because Neil was important to me and I knew David was important to him. It has grown on me since then though.
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July 15th, 2009, 08:04 PM
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It depends if it sounded ok with the first name. My oldest DS is Miles Paul....Paul is my DHs and FILs name so it was a family and not my first choice.

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July 15th, 2009, 08:07 PM
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I wouldn't use a name DH didn't care for no matter how much I loved it - it's his child too. But picking Ariadne Nicole was our compromise. I loved Ariadne, and he liked it enough.. he loved Nicole, and I liked it enough. Neither one of us disliked the other one's choice, though. Nicole is a nice name, just not really my thing.

Though I will add that if a name was important to DH (not just that he really liked it, but it had meaning), and I didn't like it.. I'd probably use it anyways. If he had insisted that Luke's middle name be Donald, I would have given it to him, even though I hate the name. (DH's middle name is Donald, and his father and grandfather are both Donald as well.)

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July 15th, 2009, 08:45 PM
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i think we'd have to find some balance where we just liked both names instead of one of us hating one of the names.
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July 15th, 2009, 08:51 PM
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I'm on the fence on this one. I can't say I'd want to use a fn if my dh really didn't like it and I can't say I'd want to use a mn that I hated it. On the other hand, I could see myself using a mn that was honoring someone that I didn't really care for. For example I don't care for the name Doris at ALL, but it's dh's grandmother's first name. So if dh really wanted to use it...I probably would...as a mn.
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July 15th, 2009, 11:55 PM
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I'd definitely consider doing a deal like that with my husband!! But when I really think about it, I don't think I'd want to use a name that he hated. I'd rather find a name that we both can like.

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July 16th, 2009, 02:00 AM
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I'd rather find a fn and mn we both like and can live with. But, if a particular first name was really important to me then I would probably let him use just about any mn within reason. If it was completely horrible, I'd consider other options for a fn so I wouldn't have to use the mn of his choice. Even if it's to honor a family member, I would try to find a variation of that name to use.
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July 16th, 2009, 02:58 AM
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Hmmm I think I would, in certain circumstances - like if my SO wanted to use a family name that was really NMS, as a m/n.... BUT all in all, I'd sooner find a first & middle name that we both liked

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July 16th, 2009, 04:04 AM
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I think I would if I was in LOVE with my first name choice. I think I have a couple in mind that I'd have to fight for pretty hard with DH, so I'd pretty much consider any mn he would want if it meant being able to use the name I love.
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July 16th, 2009, 04:15 AM
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July 16th, 2009, 10:53 AM
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Nope, I couldn't do it. When we named Alexis, it was REALLY important to me that we BOTH loved her name 100%.. first AND middle. I wouldn't settle for something I didnt like, nor would I want DH to.. even if I liked a name he didn't.

I really wanted to use Hannah.. it's one of my all time fave names and always has been. But, DH dislikes it. I would never, ever, ever consider using that then.. it just wouldn't feel right to me.
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