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Why cant I just stop....I feel so weak

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August 19th, 2006, 09:09 AM
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I just feel so weak....I have been smoking a pack a day or more since I was 12, I am now 25. With my 1st pg I cut down a lot but I couldnt stop....I begged my DR and they just wouldnt or couldnt help me, and its the same for this pg....I am in his office in tears begging for help, and he just wont....
I have tried everything, cold turkey, hypnossis, acupuncture, ect.....I JUST CANT DO IT!!!
My daughter is fine thank god....
My DH says that well your mom smoked with all 5 of you and my sister smoked with all 6 of hers, but that DOESNT make it right.
I feel soooooo very weak, everyday I say to myself "okay today is the day....you will stop you can do it" and than something happens, and I NEED one.
I am a recovering drug addict, I have been clean 7 years and when I was in rehab they pushed cigs to get you to quit drugs, and since than that has been my crutch. I quit once for 6 mons, and than I had one and that was it!!
I am so very angry at myself.......I cant do it!!!!!!
I keep telling myself I must be a horrible mother and how horrible I am.....
Since I found out I was pg so many things have been happening that feel as if they are hindering my quitting....like buying our first house and having major problems, losing my job, losing my beloved cat, having my cousin hang herself, and so on....all within 4 months.
I feel like I am losing my freaking mind.....
I just need support, I guess when I try to quit, if my DH doesnt like something I say or do he just tells me "shut up and go smoke a cig" He is absolutly NO help....I have begged him to help, he just wont.....GRRRRRR....I am just so freaking angry!!!!!!
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August 19th, 2006, 10:27 AM
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Oh my god. Hun im glad you came here. I myself am a recovering addict. I didnt do anything serious, but i had a drinking problem, and abused over the counter meds like codeine. When i was in rehab they also pushed smoking on you to replace one habit with another.

This is terrible because when you get stressed and when you normally would have reached for your other habit, your smoking replaced, you want to reach for a cigarette.

Please dont beat yourself up ok! take it one step at a time. maybe if things are stressful (as they sound they are) you should concentrate on just cutting down for now. Maybe try smoking only a half at a time and saving the other half for later!
Maybe your doctor is doing the same thing as mine, looking after your welfare. Your far enough along that your withdrawls will probably not cause any major problems, but i would suggest continue cutting down.

just start one step at a time. if you need to talk, please pm me. I have been dealing with the stress and the smoking, i STILL slip up sometimes. its not the end of the world, but yes it will be easier if you quit, and the problems that go along with smoking and infants will probably not show...

but stress isnt good either, so please dont stress over this. calm down and cut down!!!

Thank you to Vicki.. For my amazing Siggy

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August 19th, 2006, 11:16 AM
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Thank you
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