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April 21st, 2008, 08:35 PM
*bethany*'s Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Hi ladies! I'm Bethany, mama to 6-month old Caroline. My DSO and I have been planning to Foster Parent and Adopt (through that system) since we met 3 years ago. We decided to TTC last January and had our first baby in October. Our next step, family-wise, is hopefully going to be getting set up to start fostering and hopefully adopt a child (or two?! ) and then maybe TTC again in 3 or 4 years - we'll see where we're at!

We are both really excited and committed to doing this. We had both been planning on adopting someday ever since each of us was a child, so it was something we immediately agreed upon and are really hoping to get started with soon! We also both feel really strongly that since we already have a baby we would like to take in an older child who needs a home. We've both felt this way all along, but now that we DO have Caroline, we feel like we're getting the experience of raising an infant, and there are SO many older children out there who need families to love them.

So, that's a bit about us. Are most of you mamas going through the process? Or have you already adopted?! Any through the foster care system?! Domestic or International?! I just looked up this forum on JM (I've been in the Oct 07 PR since it started as a DDC!), and figured that since we're starting to talk about plans, I'd introduce myself in case we have questions along the way!!

Can't wait to share this journey with you all!
Fiancee to Micah; loving, gentle mama to Caroline Alice; and expecting # 2 January, 2010!

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April 21st, 2008, 09:34 PM
SarahBethsMommy's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I'm going through the process right now. DH and I have just started the classes that required here.

We're planning to adopt siblings through the foster care system.

One thing I'd say... not to discourage you in any way... is to just think very hard about what type of child and past can you accept with a child as young as yours in your home already. That was something that was very hard for me to do. Thinking that I couldn't "take" a child just makes me sad... but the facts are pretty simple and a lot of these kids are in care for horrible horrible reasons and that has given them a lot more issues than I can allow my daughter to be exposed to right now. But we've also found that some moderate health issues would be fine for us. We've dealt a lot with oxygen and breathing treatments and specialist appointments and daily medications. We understand therapy and how to get the children into things that would help them develop the best that they can. I think that's what the classes really are all about... figuring out where you and DH are right now and what you can accept in order to give ALL your children the best home possible.

Good luck in the process!! Be patient and get ready to have writer's cramp.

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April 22nd, 2008, 08:25 AM
m_westbro's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Hi Bethany and welcome to the group!! I'm Marla, SAHM of 4. I have 2 bio sons and 2 daughters from China. We adopted our oldest daughter at the age of 5 1/2, so older kids definitely have a special place in my heart. If I had the money and patience, I'd adopt a few more!

Best of luck on your journey and please keep us posted as to how it's going!!

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April 23rd, 2008, 08:28 AM
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Hi Bethany! Congrats on your decision to adopt! You will find people on every end of the deal here. Some are in the middle of adopting, some are just thinking about it and some had successful adoptions
I have one adopted daughter and one biological son.
Please feel free to ask any questions, I'm sure someone on here has been there, done that!
Good luck!!!!
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