Log In Sign Up

New here, just a few questions....

Forum: Adoption


Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.

We pride ourselves on having the friendliest and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment and register for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers. If you have any problems registering please drop an email to [email protected].

Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!

Reply Post New Topic
  Subscribe To Adoption LinkBack Topic Tools Search this Topic Display Modes
July 23rd, 2008, 06:15 PM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Dec 2007
Posts: 1,986
Hi guys, I am new here to the adoption board. I am expecting my second daughter this August. I am planing a vbac and am very hopeful that I will be able to do so, although if I end up having another c-section more than likely we will adopt the rest of the children we want. We plan to adopt either way, but surgery is a big fear for me so I doubt we would have more biological children. There are definitely more reasons for us wanting to adopt than just that fact. I feel blessed being about to carry the children I have carried and would love to give love and a secure family for a baby or child that doesn't have that.

Anyways, I wanted to know when is a good way to start planning on adoptions? Should we become foster parents first? I am only 23 so is that too young to even be considering this? By all means we are not rich, I have heard that if you adopt through an adoption agency it is quite expensive rather than fostering a child and then adopting him or her and you must own your own home and be quite financially stable. Can someone give me an idea of how this works?

Thanks to anyone in advance for the information.....

Reply With Quote
July 23rd, 2008, 06:50 PM
Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Atlanta, GA
Posts: 24,588
You have come to the right place - we have moms who have done it both ways (foster and through adoption agencies). I think everyone hear would say there are pros and cons to both. I can gladly give you some links but I want to see what some of the other moms here say. I've not experienced either one personally but know people who have done both. Our adoption was a private adoption from an individual.
Congrats on your babies and the thoughts of adoption - It is a wonderful thing to experience!
Reply With Quote
July 24th, 2008, 08:25 AM
m_westbro's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Texas y'all!
Posts: 17,144
Hi and welcome to the group! There are so many ways to start the adoption process, the best thing you can do right now is research. You might contact your state and find out the requirements for becoming foster parents and then go from there.

Congrats on your new baby girl, I hope you are successful with your VBAC!

my photog blog / my family blog
Reply With Quote
July 26th, 2008, 12:30 PM
SarahBethsMommy's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Nov 2007
Posts: 4,847
We are fostering to adopt as well as just doing foster care. We chose this because of the cost as well as because I'd like to foster older kids eventually.

I would not in any way expect to get a baby if you go through foster care to adopt. It happens, but it is rare. Usually if you agree to foster a certain age, you'll get calls for that age, but the narrower your range, the fewer calls you'll get. We are getting a 16 month old to foster and hopefully later adopt and that's fairly young in general to get a child.

If you don't mind getting an older baby, though, foster care is a great way to go! I feel blessed everyday to get into this! I wish you all the luck!

Thank you to AlexAiden Mommy for my beautiful siggie!
Reply With Quote

Topic Tools Search this Topic
Search this Topic:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 01:32 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.9
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0