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August 9th, 2008, 07:07 PM
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It's been some time since my last visit. Fortunately, there are lots of friendly, familiar "faces".

I suppose I should start with a recap . . .

My husband and I started the process for an international adoption over two years ago. After struggling with recurrent miscarriage and a diagnosis of cervical cancer, adoption seemed to be the only way to complete our family. After starting the process and get mostly finished with the home study, my oncologist told us that, despite having had a cone biopsy to remove my cancer, I would be able to carry a child with the assistance of a specialist. To make a very long story short, we started seeing the fertility specialist and underwent a few procedures to correct the problem that was causing my miscarriages. I started to feel that all of the surgeries and hormone treatments weren't right for us.

We decided that we would be more than satisfied with the single blessing that we were gifted in August of 2004, our son. Despite trying to convice myself that I was happy with that decision, it wasn't the truth.

Fast forward to yesterday. My husband approached me with the desire to pick up where we left off in 2006, with a slight variation. We are going to look into foster/adoption or the domestic adoption of a newborn. We are still in the very early stages at this point, so I don't want to get overly excited just yet . . . but I have trouble containing myself.

We've decided that we are going to keep this little secret to ourselves for the time being. I've talked only to my sister in law, who just happens to work for the state-wide adoption network. We've been very wishy-washy during this whole process, so we don't want to give anyone false hope until have details to give.

Anyway . . . that's my story.

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August 10th, 2008, 02:48 AM
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Hi! Welcome back!!! Congrats on your decision - I know it can be a roller coaster ride! Keep us updated, we'd love to go on your journey with you!
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August 10th, 2008, 01:14 PM
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Hi and welcome! My DH and I are foster to adopt parents through our local DHR. We currently have one placement of a 16 month old boy. He is not yet available for adoption, but if he is one day (it's probable) we will adopt him almost definitely.

I went through a lot of the same feelings you have. I have one DD born in 2006. She was born 3 months early and had a very hard start at life. Our one DS was stillborn in 2007. Our doctors still say we could have another child, but it would be hard and who knows what might happen. So adoption is just such a wonderful way to enlarge our family. I've always wanted to foster and to adopt.

One cautionary statement, not to discourage, newborns in the foster system are very very rarely available for adoption. If you open your age range a bit (like newborn to 2 or something) you are more likely to receive placements who are closer to being available for adoption. But if you are willing to wait, newborns do sometimes come into care and are ready to be adopted within a year or so. It is much much cheaper than domestic private adoption (obviously) but sometimes is a little more hard to get that signed paper.

Good luck!! I pray your journey is an easy one!

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August 10th, 2008, 02:07 PM
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Welcome back Mindy!! Please keep us posted on your exciting journey!

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August 10th, 2008, 04:32 PM
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Thanks ladies! Nice to be back on the path to motherhood.

Beth~We are open to having a child up to age 3. We would really like for our son to be the oldest. He's turning 4 in two weeks. I'm sure foster to adoption is emotionally challenging, but after all that we've been through . . . we're up for it.

I'm hoping that someone from the agency contact me tomorrow. I also want to contact the other agency that we were working with previously. It is my hope that they can help us to finish our home study; perhaps pick up where we left off. Our first agency only focused on international adoption, so they will not be able to see us through a foster to adopt situation.

I'd love to have another baby by this time next year.

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