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June 10th, 2006, 04:29 PM
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<span style="font-family:Verdana">If you adopt a BABY [like newborn] do YOU get to pick the name? Or does the actual mother?

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June 10th, 2006, 05:43 PM
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If you adopt a baby, you are the "actual" mother

The birth mother could name the baby and you could change it, but I think usually you get to choose a name. It depends on if you are talking about international or domestic, open or closed adoptions.

My son was named by a social worker in Guatemala and we changed his name.

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June 10th, 2006, 08:23 PM
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If you adopt a baby, you are the "actual" mother [/b]
Hehe, great point, Carrie.

Our girls were given names by their orphanage directors, which we kept as their middle names (though neither of them were newborns, so I guess that really doesn't answer your question). I am interested in how this works for domestic adoptions though. We have some good friends that are in process for an open adoption in Texas, and they are planning to choose the name with the birthmom.

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June 11th, 2006, 07:33 AM
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one of my yahoo mommies adopted a boy from russia. she kept the name the birth mother gave him but just made it the middle name and chosed a first name for him..
u could always do that.
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June 11th, 2006, 09:12 AM
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My sis adopted from foster & she kept the same basic name, but did some "tweaking" and added a new middle name. Example: "Suzie Marie" changed to "Suzanna Alexandra". Her daughter was a year old. And this wasn't her name, but a good example of the basic idea.
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June 11th, 2006, 07:36 PM
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My daughters adoptive family and I picked out a name together. I was shocked when they told me they were going to use the name that I liked. If they decided to name her something different I wouldn't have been offended. It is there choice, I was just lucky enough to be a part of it
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June 12th, 2006, 07:21 AM
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Yup yup... each adoption is different...

Birthmoms can name the baby, but adoptive parents can change the name... It can be stipulations of the adoption that the adoptive parents keep the name chosen, or everyone can choose together... Depends on open/closed/etc as well!
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June 12th, 2006, 12:44 PM
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I'm a birthparent counselor for an open domestic adoption agency.

Our families either choose names with the birthparents, keep the name or part of the name the birthparents choose or select their own name. The child's always has two names the birth name and the adoptive name even if the first names are the same. An original birth certificate is granted at birth with the birthparent's last name. When the adoptive parents take placement the child is now known to them with their name and a final birth certificate is granted after the finalization of the adoption.

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July 17th, 2006, 09:16 PM
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I have one friend who let the birthmom help choose the babies name, and another friend who adopted a baby they had in foster care and changed her name. They are adopting another baby in their care and are changing her name too.
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