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August 25th, 2011, 09:13 PM
mercedes1987's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: North Bay, ON
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Hi there.
I saw this board.. I am feeling all alone with my decision.
I have two kids currently living with a family not too far from me, who are loving awesome people. I am unexpectedly pregnant again, and getting my tubes tied after this baby. (I avoided getting my tubes tied even though I should of.) I have been recommended to do such by the doctor. I am by no means a bad parent, but as circumstances have it, I cannot afford to care for a new baby.I'm only 23, I have 3 kids as is (2 not living with me, 1 living with his dad.) and I'm a single Mom.
I have talked with my father who adopted me and decided this is what I am going to do.
Open-adoption.. I wanna hear from anyone who is doing this, or has done this...Please?
Whether you adopted or gave your little blessing to another family. I am thinking it would be much better for my child to grow up with 2 parents, and be able to have everything they need through life.
Love, Finances, Schooling, Housing.
I am in quite a pickle, and can't even afford housing.
What do you think? am I doing the right thing? Please don't judge, I am very sensitive.


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August 26th, 2011, 12:27 AM
SarahBethsMommy's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Hi and welcome! There is also a board right above this one called "Birth Mothers Board" where you might find some thoughts from that side of thing. The parents here have adopted children. I can tell you that making a decision like this is no less loving and caring than making a decision to parent your child on your own. There are so many folks out there that are waiting for their forever child and you would be giving them a gift they can never repay. Your child will be blessed to have multiple parents who adore him/her. And open adoption is such a wonderful option now with all the multiple ways to keep in touch (texting, email, facebook, etc.).

Good luck to you in what will be the hardest decision you ever have to make. Thank you, thank you, thank you for considering adoption.

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August 26th, 2011, 07:50 AM
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: Palm Coast, FL
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I have no experience with adoption other than I just started the process to adopt but I wanted to pop in and wish you well in your decision. I can imagine its not an easy one and I genuinely admire the courage it takes to even consider adoption. Sending good thoughts your way!

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August 26th, 2011, 04:27 PM
esparando para bebé's Avatar Proud Car Seat Technician
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I also have no words of wisdom but wanted to wish you the best of luck. I can't imagine the tough spot you must be in. My husband and I are just starting the process of finding our forever child via open adoption.

Thanks to Jaidynsmum for my siggy!
Proud former foster parent to a teen. Waiting on our next call. Proud Aunt to 22.
Proud mommy to 7 angels. Survivor of 4 failed adoptions (5 kids)
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August 27th, 2011, 07:42 PM
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Wisconsin
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I wish you all the best in your decision. I too, like some of the other posts, am just starting the process of adoption. There is the right family out there that will not let your child go without. Without love, hugs, kisses and laughter throughout their lives. I think you are able to give a huge blessing to a family.
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