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August 18th, 2006, 06:44 AM
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Hello, I'm Marla, mom of 4 wonderful kiddos, including 2 bio boys and 2 cuties from China. My boys are Jakob, born 4/28/99 and Jack, born 1/22/06. My girls are Jacey, born 12/13/99 and Jaden, born 2/25/03. We adopted Jaden at the age of 10 months, from Zhuzhou, Hunan, PRC in January of 2004. Jacey was adopted in October 2005 from Nanning, Guangxi, PRC at the age of 5 3/4. Both girls have adjusted beautifully to our family, and we feel so blessed to have been chosen to be their parents. Our adoption agency is Holt International in Eugene, OR. Please feel free to PM me (or post to the board) for information about Holt or China adoption in general, I love to share our experiences any chance I get! Thanks for visiting the JM Adoption board!

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August 18th, 2006, 02:59 PM
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Hi everyone! I'm Mindy, mom of Rylan and 4 angels. Rylan was born into our arms on August 26, 2004. He'll be turning 2 in just a week. We are in the beginning stages of adopting #2. We are still unsure of where we will be adopting from but have some direction. We will hopefully have a baby in our arms within the next 4-6 months!!

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February 12th, 2007, 11:08 PM
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Hello Marla !
Its really very nice to know about you and your family .... I so very Happy... Your four children are really very sweeet and cute looking ... and your girls are very beutiful . God Bless u'll.
Good Luck !
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April 27th, 2007, 04:55 PM
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Hello my name is Megan and I have a daughter that is 16 months old.

I have lost four babies and my Husband and I have decided that adoption is the next option for us.

We have just started the adoption process and we are lookign ot adopt a little boy age 0-5.
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April 27th, 2007, 09:40 PM
BensMom's Avatar Ephesians 4:29
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I'm Chrystal. I'm not adopting just yet... only thinking about it. We've been told I can only have 1 more baby safely, so when the (Lord willing) two kids are appx 8-10 yrs old, we'd like to adopt two more who are also appx 8-10 years old. Preferably siblings who want to be placed in the same home. I lurk here from time to time and enjoy reading the adoption stories of others. Birthmoms are truly the most sacrificial people in the world.
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May 6th, 2007, 08:38 AM
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Hi girls. My name is Erin Kate and my dh and I have decided to begin the process to adopt internationally. We have two sweet daughters, Gracie (3) and Ellie (1), and just m/c our third little bean. We really want a third baby and we've decided that adoption is the best path for our family . . . we are so excited. It all seems so daunting and a little scary, but we know that the end result makes it all worthwhile.

We are looking at adopting from Kazakhstan or China. We are smitten with All God's Children Int'l and Holt Int'l. If anyone has any thoughts on these agencies, please let us know.

Looking forward to getting to know you all.
<span style="font-family:Century Gothic">Blessed Mommie to
Gracie Mae (3)
Ellie Viola (1)
. . . and praying for baby #3, Amelie Jane

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May 8th, 2007, 09:37 AM
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I'm Nicole, I've always wanted to adopt. I'm an only child and remember numerous times begging my parents to adopt. My DH and I have decided to try and have 2 bio and then adopt a third. The third we hope will be from Guatemala, depending on what's going on down there at the time.

My best friend adopted a 3 (now 4) year old little guy from Guat last year. He's the love of my life right now. She's in the process of adopting 2 more from there. A little girl that was born in August and a little guy that was born in January.

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July 28th, 2007, 07:56 PM
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Originally, I planned to get married and have children as soon as possible. After trying, unsuccessfully, to conceive, my husband and I decided to explore other options. We began to consider being foster parents. We could help a child, we reasoned, while trying to decide the best way to get one of our own.

Foster parenting provided us with an opportunity to parent and we loved it. After our first client was reunited with his mother, we received a call about a little 6 year old girl. Parenting this child with a history of trauma and neglect was not smooth sailing. She tested us and pushed limits to see if we also would send her away. She acted out in ways that I did not like or initially understand.

But, as we worked with Candice, and God worked in her, she sparkled more and more. She is a wonderful treasure. She is gentle, loving, giving, and forgiving. She is bright, talented, creative, and funny. We finalized her adoption when she was 9.

We continued to minister to many children with special needs. Then one day, sweet Rodney entered our lives. We visited him at the children’s hospital. Besides Down’s syndrome, Rodney’s chart listed numerous medical conditions, and at the age of 4 had been given less than a year to live. We had to be trained in how to feed him, administer his medicine, care for his tracheotomy, adjust his oxygen levels, and what to do when he stopped breathing. We brought him home so that he wouldn’t have to die alone.

But in a testament to God’s grace, modern medicine, and the healing power of a mother and father's love, Rodney is now an exuberant 7 year old. Also known as “Hot Rod,” he keeps moving until bedtime: playing, learning, helping his dad and laughing. A family court judge “officially” added him to our family in November 2006.

We now have plenty of activity in our home- in December we became parents to a third child, this time the bundle of joy we envisioned welcoming into our home nine years ago. As I look at my two beautiful daughters and high-spirited son and breathe in their smell of strawberry lip balm, Cheez-Its, and baby formula, I know we have the family God designed for us.

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August 18th, 2007, 04:36 PM
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<span style="color:#ff00ff">Hello everyone I‘m new to the board, my name is Naomi, but most of my family and everyone else calls me Na. My husband and I are adopting a baby come November from my Brother and SIL. We are getting anxious and excited to have been given this opportunity to have been asked to adopt this child.

<span style="font-family:Georgia">They came to us and asked us if we would adopt the baby once it was born, they are financially strapped and I myself can not have children. So my brother and sister-in-law, feel it is in the best interest of the child to have us adopt the baby. I have already talked with an attorney and was told we will not be starting any paper work until Sept. and since they picked us it has a cross over between a private and relation/kinship adoption and we will be waiving a few of the things such as the home study I know different states have different laws on these types of adoptions and here in Iowa it is optional. Basically what will happen is after 72 hours of birth my brother and sister-in-law will sign parental termination papers and then our adoption petition will go though.

I have been taking my SIL to all her doctor appointment minus one that unforeseen circumstances kept me from doing so. I feel blessed to have been given the chance to be there through all this, words will and can never express to me how moved and touched I was and still am to have had them help me make a dream come true. See I can not physically have a child of my own and my hearts biggest desire and dream was and has always been to be a mother.

Thought I should also add that I am 38 at least I am till October, and my husband is 57. Our attorney has told us that due to the fact my Brother and SIL asked us to adopt this will be a crossover between a private adoption and a relative/kinship adoption, so some of the laws for our state dealing with adoptions can and will be waived. I have to set up a appointment next month to start working on the paper work for the adoption. That being said I'll close for now.

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September 2nd, 2007, 02:41 PM
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Here is a part of what DH wrote a few months ago to read at our kiddos dedication in church....

After about three years of marriage, Ivy and I decided that we had been married long enough and had our lives going in a good direction, so it was time to start building our family. We figured it might take a while, but we were excited about the prospect of a baby. We did not, however, know just what we were getting ourselves into.

You see, in the years that we had been married, Ivy's body had stopped cycling. We took the first year and a half just to try to wake her body up. And it gave us a taste of what type of medication it might take to help us get pregnant. We were already starting to get frustrated but knew that these things were common but could be beat easily. So we went back to Ivy's doctor and began the first series of fertility testing. In May of 2005, Ivy began taking Clomid, a fertility drug. We were very excited as we just knew this would be it. We would get pregnant. Then a month went by, then two, then three….and it wasn’t working. Her body still wasn’t cooperating. Every month, her dose was upped…every month she had to go back for testing. Every month, the test was negative. And every month that went by began to bring more and more heartache. After five months of clomid and almost two years of trying to concieve, our doctor sent us to a fertility specialist.

While waiting for our appointment, Ivy began to feel weird. She had strange pain that couldn’t be described. She was uncomfortable, irritable…It finally got to the point that she just couldn’t handle the pain anymore, so we went to the ER. That day, in October of 2005, we got a positive pregnancy test. We were overjoyed, to say the least. We had just bought our house and the fertility treatments were beginning to take a toll on us. Depression was starting to kick in. We just knew this was a miracle and the answer to our prayers.

Unfortunately, Ivy miscarried just days after getting the positive test. It was devastating. After trying for so long and praying so hard, it was like God had ripped our miracle away from us. She laid on our couch and sobbed for days. I felt useless. There was nothing I could do.

Ten days after the miscarriage, we picked ourselves up and went to meet our fertility specialist. He calmed my fears, explained how the miscarriage happened, and moved us forward. Ivy had to continue to take a drug called Prometrium and in December, she went in for surgery. The diagnosis was not promising. Ivy had stage two, almost stage three, endometriosis and polycystic ovarian syndrome. We were told our protocol for the next stage in our treatments. This included multiple ultrasounds, 7 different medications, daily shots, and artificial insemination. I couldn’t picture us going through this. We had always promised ourselves we would not get invasive, and here we were, so desperate to have a baby, that we were taking steps we never thought we would. We tried so hard to reconcile it all. Ivy even went to see the doctor with her mom in order to ease her fears. We were in such a state of disbelief and devastation that I felt as though we were crumbling. We were told that we had four chances with this protocol,that’s it. And then it would be over. We couldn't afford In Vitro Fertilization.

We went into the doctor’s office in late December hoping that this would be it. Hoping that this time it would work. And were told that in the two weeks since my surgery, Ivy had grown a large cyst and could not do the treatments. Another surgery was talked about and we were sent home with birth control pills
for Ivy to take to help alleviate the cyst.

We went home and cried together. We thought another opportunity had been taken away from us. After about half an hour, Ivy looked up at me and said, “It’s time for you to play the man card and make a decision. What do you want to do?” I told her, “You’re done. We can’t do this anymore. It’s time to adopt.” And finally, for the first time in months, we both began to feel hope. You see, we believe that there is a reason for everything. And we needed to feel as though there was a reason for all of the heartache. That there was a reason for all of our pain. What we didn’t know was that there wasn’t a reason. There were three.

So Ivy got up from the couch, went into our filing cabinet, got out the adoption applications, and began to fill them out. Within a month, we heard about three children who would be up for adoption…and shrugged it off. Adoption is not that easy, so we thought nothing of it when Teresa told us her parents were fostering these kids and that they would be ready for adoption soon.

A week later, Ivy got a text message on her phone. It said “they’re free. They can be adopted.” She went to Teresa’s house, spoke to her mom on the phone about the kids and began to feel as though her heart was being tugged towards them. She tried to talk to me about it and I told her no. That’s too many kids at once. There’s no way. She finally talked me into at least finding out about the kids. Well, then she did the worst. She showed me a picture of them. And that was it. They were ours.

A week after we decided to adopt, we discovered that the cyst she had grown, the cyst that the fertility specialist thought would have to be surgically removed, the cyst that kept us from completing the invasive fertility treatments, was gone.

6 weeks after the surgery, four weeks after deciding to adopt, we met our kids. The process was rolling. And the process rolled very quickly. In may, just three months later, our kids came home. That is practically unheard of. You see, it usually takes three months to go through the application process alone and then it could take years before you bring a child home. It took us a grand total of three and a half months. That in and of itself is a miracle.

So we brought our children home and became a family. As time went by, we began to heal. Our hearts were filling back up, our home was happy. And we figured this was it. This is what life is all about.

Then something strange happened. One day while at work, Ivy felt her body wake up. It only lasted a few seconds, but she new exactly what it was. When she told me about it that evening, I thought nothing of it.

Three months after our first three children came home and three years into trying to concieve, we found out we were pregnant with our fourth. A miracle to say the least. And for the next eight months, we struggled to keep the pregnancy. We fought against nature and somehow, we won.

So why am I telling you all of this? Why am I delving into our very personal experiences? It all goes back to what we now call our mantra: There is a reason. There is always a reason. There were reasons that we couldn’t get pregnant. There were reasons for the loss of our first pregnancy. There were reasons for that cyst being there, stopping us from continuing the treatments. And all four of them are here today.
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November 7th, 2007, 04:34 PM
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These stories are so very touching! I am so glad I found this forum.

Hi, my name is Jessica. My DH and I are currently trying to have a baby, and have been for 11 months now. I have always been interested in foster care and adoption and recently found out my DH is too. After reading these stories together and lurking around this board for a few weeks, DH and I are even more certain about it. We've attended a foster care course with our county and have the follow up adoption course this Saturday. We're still very much in the learning stage of it all, but it is great to know there are many "teachers" out there and I've found some great ones on this board!

I look forward to "meeting" all of you. If anyone has any suggestions, comments, ideas... anything at all, I'd love to hear them.

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January 15th, 2008, 05:58 AM
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Hi, I'm Chrisa. I have a 14 yr old step daughter, Chelsey and a 2 yr old daughter, Samantha. Dh and I recently lost our son due to extreme prematurity. I was due Jan 11 and gave birth to our sweet little fighter on 09/03/07. He passed away on 09/07/07. It's been a difficult time for us, but we still want another child. My doctor said it I get pregnant again I will need a cercalge at 14 weeks and then strict bedrest until the end of my pregnancy. I can't do it. I have my girls to think about. So...dh and I have decided we are finished ttc. One of us will be taking permanent measures to end that soon. My brother is adopted, so I have always thought about it and dh and I had talked about it in the past. I would love to adopt a newborn baby boy from here. Dh doens't care if the baby is a little older. We are planning on going through an attorney and doing a closed private adoption. I'm not sure when we are going to place the call, but hopefully soon.

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March 22nd, 2008, 05:24 PM
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Hello, my name is Emily and as of right now my husband and I have no kids. We do have 3 furbabies though. One mini dachshund(Roxy), a mix(Dynamo) and a black and white cat(Jasmine).
We are hoping to adopt maybe start the process at the beginning of 2009. We have to save first and are planning on moving into a bigger house. We have been dealing with MFI and thats why we haven't had the joys of having our own, but would love the chance to share a wonderful relationship with an adopted child. We are looking into domestic infant adoption.


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April 8th, 2008, 03:53 PM
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Hi! My name is Rebecca - I have two wonderful children - Kirsten (8) and Connor (2). We adopted Kirsten from a family member when she was 4 months old. I'd be happy to answer any questions anyone might have
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April 26th, 2008, 08:42 PM
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Hi all, I am new here to the JM boards. I am a mom of 3 and after having to have a hysterectomy due to endometriosis and adenomyosis, my heart and eyes were opened up to adoption. After much research we decided to adopt internationally through China. We started our journey May 3, 2007. It has been an intense paperwork pregnancy. We are praying that we will get the call in the next few months. Though with all the recent changes with CCAA, and the Olympics things are somewhat uncertain.

Congrats to all the beautiful families here. I look forward to getting to know you better!
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May 27th, 2008, 02:25 AM
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Hi, my name is Ashleigh. My fiance and I have been trying for over a year now for our own child, and we have been unable to have one as of now. We are going to keep trying for a lot longer, and we plan to get married in the future. Further down the line, we would like to adopt a few children. We hope to be able to have some children on our own, but we have always wanted to adopt children, as well. Though we are not ready to start the adoption process right now, I love hearing everyone's stories and getting some insight on adoption, so that when we are ready to start the process, we will know what we are going to come across. Beautiful stories everyone!
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July 25th, 2008, 01:39 AM
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Hi im new around here but we grew our family through fostering and then adoption.
We have one biological child and 4 adopted ones. Two sets of siblings.
We started fostering about 5 years ago without the intention of adopting. Our first two placements were long term placements and after loosing the first one and being heart broken we almost hung up our hat. But God had other plans for us. He knew that our two boys- Ricky and Steve were about to need a permanent home. Although we were heart broken, we muddled on.
A few short months later, it was time to decide permanancy for our boys. After 15 months in our home, their biological family finally stepped up and offered to take them. We of course were more than willing but let the courts decide on what was best. The judge decided that the boys were more stable being with us that they had been with for 15 months instead of going to family they didnt know. But we still had a long road to hoe....We got the severance in July of 2006 but still had appeals to go through and for by the Grace of God all appeals were over turned and we were able to finalize our adoption in September of 2007. 3 years and 10 months after having them placed in our home.

Our second adoption was also all in God's plan because so far as we knew we were not done fostering but we were done adding to our own family. In September of 2006 we got a call asking if we could have placement for a 2 yo and 1 yo sister and brother. We said yes. They were coming from a foster home where they had been abused. We again were not planning on adopting them. For one thing, they are native american and we are not and we had already lost a little girl (our first placement) because we were not NA. We worked very closely with their birth mom on trying to reunify the family. Birth mom was working extremely hard. But as the birth of her 3rd child got closer and closer, she realized that she couldnt take care of the 3 of them by herself and asked us to adopt the two older ones. We thought long and hard because it was never something that we had even considered. We agreed to adopt them only if the tribe was going to stay out of it. We were mentally and emotionally exhausted after having gone through the case of loosing the first little girl and then also our first adoption. We didn't know if we emotionally had the strength to do it. God told us that he would give us the strength, and he did. He also moved our obstacles and made the road ahead clear as daylight. Mom was only willing to reliquish her rights providing that we were the adoptive placement and the judge ruled that the tribe either had to leave the case or take jurisdiction over. They choose to get out of the case and we were able to move forward. We finalized in May of 2008.

We have hung up our fostering hat for the moment. Our hearts are still in it but we don't feel like we are in a place atm to continue. We need to take some time for our family. Although we have all been living together since 2006, making it final and making it real changes things and we need time to settle into those new roles.
I am hoping someday to foster teen girls.

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August 23rd, 2008, 05:49 PM
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Well, here I am. We suffered our 7th loss 2 weeks ago, and we decided that we were done ttc. We just CANNOT take anymore losses and hurt. So since we still want a large family, we started talking about, researching, and ultimately choosing adoption. We are going the international route. We hope to adopt a little boy from Russia, then in a year or 2 adopt a little boy and a little girl from Kazakhstan. We have been talking to different agencies and have it narrowed to 3 that we really like. Once we settle on one, we will start the whole process. We are happy, scared, excited, nervous, anxious, and READY all at once. Can anyone with any international adoption experience tell me what to expect? I have heard Russian adoptions are quite complicated. Thanks so much, and I cant wait to get to know you all!!!
Me (31) DH (34)

DS born 4/24/98 - 41 weeks - age 11yrs
DD born 9/6/06 - 39 weeks - age 2 1/2 yrs

8 total losses: 7 first trimester & 1 second trimester

TTC #3!!! Wish us luck!!

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September 3rd, 2008, 06:21 AM
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I am a new infant mommy to be, I am working with a private open adoption of twin boys that are due Jan 29th via C-section. I know the bio mom, she asked if I would adopt, my husband agreed, and there it is.

We have 2 other kiddos that will be ours via adoption on the 22nd of Sept.Leigh and Brandon ages 8 and soon to be 6. I also have a new foster daughter aged 14 named Traci, who is still trying to decide if she wants to be adopted or not.

My name is Renee.
And now there are 6....
Traci 14
Leigh 9
Brandon 6
Suzanne (1-18-2009)
Kyle & Luke (1-22-2009)

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September 3rd, 2008, 09:13 AM
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Welcome Renee! I'm excited to get to talk with you. My DH and I have just started out as foster parents. We have our first placement... lil buddy is what we call him. He's 16 months old and we are sure praying he becomes a permanent part of our home. Glad you are here!!

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