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December 31st, 2009, 12:44 PM
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What age did you start encouraging yo0ur child(ren) to use cutlery to feed themselves with?
How did you go about it?
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December 31st, 2009, 12:50 PM
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Max is wanting to use cutlery, he knows what to do with it now and does all the motions but he hasn't mastered it! I think they give him a spoon to use while they feed him at nursery. I'm not sure how old Emma was when she learnt to use a spoon but she's a pro now lol she doesn't use a knife yet though.
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December 31st, 2009, 01:21 PM
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ok, perhaps Kirsty is a bit little to start yet then?! I ask because I give her toast for breakfast and she is beginning to have sandwiches for lunch but I feel that may be too much bread... therefore I would like to give her weetabix and other cereal but she is Miss Independent right now and prefers to feed herself
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December 31st, 2009, 01:28 PM
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My son I give him a spoon or a (toddler) fork to play with while he waits for and also eats his dinner. Sometimes I will stab something with the fork for him and it to him and see if he uses it, but normally he just takes the food off with his hands and eats it! With the spoon I give it to him loaded, and hold on to the end of it a little to help him put it in his mouth. He will grab it at about the spot right behind the "head" of it and shove it in his mouth it is so cute! This is how we do applesauce and other things like that. He has gotten pretty good. One he gets it into his mouth I let go and let him have at it a little until I take it back for the next spoonful. He understands what is going on now so he hands it over very easily. Sometimes we will share and I will take a bite, then he will and this gets him VERY excited and happy

ETA I don't use his toddler spoon anymore with him. I got him a set at Ikea and it is just so big an wide it was hard for him to get anything into his mouth with it. I just use the little teaspoons from our set now and it works perfectly for him

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December 31st, 2009, 03:28 PM
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I think lacey was about 12 months when she first wanted to hold the cutlery and play with it, i let her do that while i helped feed her with more cutlery, as most of it went down her front - it's only since 15/16 months that she has been holding and feeding herself properly, she can eat her dinner all by herself now, she can get things on her fork and on her spoon and get it in her mouth properly.

Rhianna was roughly the same age she was using her spoon & fork by 18 months, they both don't know how to use a knife yet though, they usually dig that in their sauce and mess around with it lol
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January 1st, 2010, 04:23 AM
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both girls now no how to use spoon and fork now they always feed them selfs every meal time i cant remember when i first gave it to them but charlie was younger cause she wanted to copy brooke neither of them no how to use a knife yet even brooke at 5 dosent use it right but she does try

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January 1st, 2010, 06:09 AM
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ditto sarah. i have a scrapbook page of maica mastering a spoon at about 15 months, and from then she started to use it more skillfully.

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January 1st, 2010, 06:26 AM
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at about 15 months i gave her a kiddie cutlery set she is really good with it now

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January 1st, 2010, 08:10 AM
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We started giving Zach finger foods and a lot of our foods at quite an early age (loosely following the idea of baby led weaning), and the only way for him to eat those foods was with his hands as he was too young to master using a spoon/fork. Unfortunately because it was so easy for him to eat with his hands, when we did introduce cutlery he initially refused to use it. He can use a spoon and fork now, but after a few mouthfuls puts them down and eats with his hands (because it's easy for him, and he's a lazy boy)! We obviously encourage the use of cutlery, and I am sure in time he will give up using his hands, but while it is the easiest way for him to eat then I'm not going to force the issue with him.
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January 1st, 2010, 09:24 AM
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I feel the same as you Lou, as long as she is self-feeding, the cutlery part of it will come in time. I'm glad I posted this now! I was wondering about when to introduce a spoon. I have tried in the past to do as Aimee says, load the spoon and give it to her but she flails her hands/arms about and it ends up half way across the kitchen

I may try again though!
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January 1st, 2010, 01:42 PM
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I should have added that although Emma is a pro she still sometimes uses her hands and she is nearly 3! She also knows it is easier and quicker! I'm not fussed as long as she is eating nicely and not playing with it!
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January 2nd, 2010, 02:31 AM
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Even by using her hands, I'm pleased for Kirsty that she is becoming self-efficiant in eating - it means I get to eat my food whilst it is hot too!!!!
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January 2nd, 2010, 06:28 AM
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Mia used a spoon till she was around 15 months then would only eat with a fork. She has eaten better since she started using a fork.

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