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October 14th, 2011, 06:25 AM
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Those who've TTC before or knows someone well who has...

Which do you reckon is worse, the waiting blues or the TTC blues? Why?
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October 14th, 2011, 07:08 AM
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Waiting is hard because it feels like there is no end in sight. We tend to want everything perfect and it will never be perfect.

TTC would be really hard to deal with if it took more than like 6 months.
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October 14th, 2011, 07:19 AM
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I don't know for sure yet, but I'm going to guess the TTC blues. The waiting has definitely been hard, but I can imagine that once you're actually in TTC, that you'll want it to happen right away and each month that it doesn't happen I can imagine will be incredibly hard. Here's to hoping we all get that BFP right away!
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October 14th, 2011, 07:29 AM
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TTC after the first few months. Waiting is hard, but the anticipation is fun. The first few months of TTC are exciting. But when you're losing hope that you'll ever get pregnant, it's very difficult. I'm crossing my fingers that I'll get pregnant easily next time.
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October 14th, 2011, 08:35 AM
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My aunt struggled to have children for years and years before finally adopting my cousin. I can't imagine how that must feel. Yet when it comes to WTTC compared with just a few months of the TTC blues, I imagine they would have their own set of struggles. Waiting is tough because like Neads said we want everything to be perfect, and it is really hard to get to that point because there is always stuff coming up.

Then again, I am a total control freak, so I can imagine being hugely frustrated not being able to get pg on the first try. Here's hoping we all get BFP's on the first try!
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October 14th, 2011, 09:17 AM
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ttc is harder cause you don't have a end in site and when it goes past a year you start to wonder when it will ever happen. with wttc you have control over waiting.
i ttc for zac for 5 years and it was heartbreaking at times esp cause my dd really wanted a brother/sister.
i'm hoping it will be quick this time i know i can't give it 5 years i will have to quit my then.
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October 14th, 2011, 10:23 AM
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Having never experienced it I imagine the TTC Blues are harder just because if it doesn't happen every month it's a huge disappointment. Even though we have a HUGE family when my mom was trying to get pregnant with the last two, the disappointment every month was horribly hard for her. She cried a lot.

That being said I think it depends, everything's relative to that person's experience.
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October 14th, 2011, 01:39 PM
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Which do you reckon is worse, the waiting blues or the TTC blues? Why?

the TTC and having no luck blues. Waiting will eventually come to an end, TTC unfortunately may never have the result you are looking for. So I think TTC would be harder.

*says the girl who's been wttc for over 10 years now*
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October 14th, 2011, 01:54 PM
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I think the TTC Blues have got to be harder. Especially when every month that goes by that you don't make it you've got a reminder that it didn't work. That would be really really sad. I hope we all get knocked up fast!!
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October 15th, 2011, 04:18 AM
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You know what? I think they're pretty equal.

WTTC Blues:
Agony of seeing friends and relatives get pregnant and you're still waiting
Biological clock ticking
Having goals to meet before you know it will happen
Trying to get DP on side
Hormones each month around O and AF and nowhere for them to go
Birth control woes
Pestering parents (the "when are you gonna make me a grandparent" thing)

TTC Blues:
Agony of seeing friends and relatives get pregnant when you desperately want it
Biological clock ticking as the months go by
Wondering if there's anything wrong or if it'll ever happen every time you get AF
Trying to work everything out so you DTD on the right days
Agonising over when you've O'd, if you've O'd and if you guessed it right
Crazy hormones around O and AF exacerbated by emotional journey and lack of BC
The long drawn-out 2WW and all the second-guessing!

They seem fairly equal evils to me!!

Gosh I'm gonna be remember this and be happy when I'm pregnant! lol!
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October 16th, 2011, 07:36 PM
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TTC after the first few months. Waiting is hard, but the anticipation is fun. The first few months of TTC are exciting. But when you're losing hope that you'll ever get pregnant, it's very difficult. I'm crossing my fingers that I'll get pregnant easily next time.
Ditto. It took us 13 months to TTC Jonesy. It was fun and exciting at first, then frustrating and stressful. Eamon happened right away and I almost missed the "fun" and anticipation of TTC, but that fun feeling doesn't last if it takes a while.
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October 17th, 2011, 09:14 AM
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TTC is harder. Every month that goes by with no BFP to show for it extremly hard. We have been TTC'ing for 8 months now with no luck.
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