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April 6th, 2009, 02:06 PM
broxi3781's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Has anyone noticed that until recently all the experts seemed to be men? Now I am not trying to be an extreme feminist, I tend to think the womens rights movement lost us more then we gained in some areas, but that is something for the debate boards not here.
But my point is, starting with Men telling us how to give birth ( on your back with forceps and all) to the church banning co sleeping, to doctors and executives of companies telling us to formula feed, and then men telling us how to mother through books, where did men get to be the experts on childbirth and mothering?
Ok now we do have women experts too, but it just seems something has been taken away, the reliance on other women who were mothers and on a new mothers own feelings and instincts. We have natural parenting books too, but only because natural parenting has been suppressed for so many generations. Do you think maybe there is something missing? A culture of mothers and motherhood? Or perhaps that womens confidence as mothers, and maybe just as women has been deliberatley undermined? Any ideas on this?
I know some of you are more knowledgable on this subject then me, so please pipe up here!
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April 7th, 2009, 12:29 AM
beck12's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Well I can say at least around here - it is hard to find a female Ob...so maybe that is also part of it. I think as midwives become more prevalent again we will start to see a shift in thinking. I think too that men in general in recent history have really been more educated in this country & without a degree it is hard to be seen as an expert. I also tell Dh (as he recently was telling me I should write a book on an unrelated issue) that the reason you don't see women doing a lot of the things men do is because we are too dang busy doing what matters with our families instead of out trying to conquer the world. Maybe I will write that book someday when Ds is older, but for now I can't say that sharing my time with a computer is more appealing than sharing it with Ds....

Oh & I am NOT more knowledgeable on this subject than you - it's just my two cents that I totally made up out of thin air & my own ideas... LOL
B - Crazy momma to my two boys
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