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April 7th, 2009, 09:15 PM
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I was on another message board earlier today, browsing posts. I ran across one from a woman asking how to get her child to sleep in her own bed. She had coslept with her since birth, but was ready to move her to her crib. Want to guess what every response to her question was? Yes, there were at least 5 responses and every one said "You will have to let her CIO" I know how I was as a FTM, I didn't know how I wanted to do things and easily took everyone else's advice. I just kept thinking, here is a first-time mom, and she will likely think these women with several children must know what is best, and probably try it. I figured the least I could do was throw in a response encouraging her not to CIO and tell her there were other options.

It makes me so sad that it is so common to let babies CIO. I admit, I tried it with Abby, but it killed me. I hated listening to my baby cry. I quickly learned it got us nowhere though and looked for other options. I still feel so bad about it.
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April 7th, 2009, 09:24 PM
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That is sad, CIO doesn't work, I've tried it in the past and doing it in fact made me cry. I wish there were more people out there that understood it won't help their baby to cry like that and it makes them less secure as well.
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April 7th, 2009, 09:43 PM
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That is sad! When I tried to transition Lily at 5 months I was told by so many people to let her CIO. I couldn't let her do that though and I ended up sleeping on her floor for a month and then we went back to co-sleeping.

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April 8th, 2009, 01:26 AM
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I think it is also sad how many people think that this is what you have to do. They absoloutly do not know better. They think that at some point you have to get your child used to falling asleep by themselves by not answering their cries.

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April 8th, 2009, 01:49 PM
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I think its sad how when people give advice they are telling someone how to parent. I mean you could give BOTH sides for advice?

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April 8th, 2009, 04:45 PM
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I still feel weird having input here seeing as I'm not a mom yet but the idea of letting a baby CIO breaks my heart. Fortunatly, as a first time mom-to-be I've had people give me really great advice, like reading The Happiest Baby on the Block, which I LOVED because it explains why CIO doesn't work.

But really - how DO you get a child to sleep in their own bed? I figured I'd just play that part by ear.

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April 9th, 2009, 09:26 AM
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thats horrible!
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