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April 21st, 2009, 10:32 AM
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My husband has given me the option of going on a girls weekend trip to napa valley when my little one is one year old. My son would be with his dad the entire time and it would be a three day weekend trip.
My question is I have never had a one year old and I only want to agree to go on the trip (or get my hopes up) if my son will be able to understand mommy is coming back, we can talk on the phone, and he won't suffer from the brief distance. Does anyone have any advice or insight? I am clueless about the developmental level of a one year old.
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April 21st, 2009, 11:54 AM
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This is just me, but I didn't leave any of my kids until they were at least two. But I also think that if you really want to do this, then go for it. I don't think it will leave any lasting affect on your LO. I think he'll have a great time with daddy.
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April 21st, 2009, 12:52 PM
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I have had to leave my DS for business a few times. The longest I have been gone is two nights & every time he seemed to do MUCH better than I have done. Dh (whom I believe does NOT lie to me) says he is really fine with it...and never cries for me, etc. He may ask for me & get a little whiny, but settles in quickly & is okay with having daddy instead. It really actually about broke my heart that he was okay - LOL. He still nurses too - and I pump while i am away - but he seems to be fine & I believe it, because he may be a little clingier when I come back, but not much. If he will be with daddy & you want to go, then I say do what feel right to you.
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April 24th, 2009, 03:47 PM
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I think your LO would be fine as long as they are with someone they love and trust! It could end up being a very special bonding weekend for them and Daddy
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April 24th, 2009, 04:14 PM
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I think he would be find if he is also attached to Daddy. I personal couldn't do it but it has way more to do with me then with how my son would deal with it. I am having a new baby right around the time my son turns one and he will be with us at the hospital since we don't feel comfortable with him in anyone elses care yet.
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April 25th, 2009, 04:19 PM
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I went on a 4-day business trip when Hugo was a little over 5 mos. old. It was an all-expense paid conference that I really couldn't pass up. He stayed with his dad here at home and was just fine! They were co-sleeping at that time, and I wasn't nursing then, so it worked out and he was not upset in any way when I returned. I don't think I'll do it again, but I made it through ok as well.

We are thinking about going on a 4-day or so babymoon before #2 arrives to a quiet B&B. Hugo has very happily stayed overnights with Grandma and Grandpa (his daily caregivers) a few times before so that is what we would do this time. It may depend on how you think your baby would handle it... Hugo is very easygoing and very attached to Gma & Gpa and gets excited to go there. They are talking about taking him to a theme park for very young kids too so that may also help.

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