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April 24th, 2009, 04:18 PM
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do you try to hide it from your child?

Today was not a good day...I found out my 16 yr old dog had cancer and I had to make the choice to put him to sleep. I was very upset and still am...I am going to burry him tomorrow at my father's house which will help with the sadness.

When I came home I tried to put on a brave face so my son wouldn't be effected. But is that really the best thing. I mean I know he is way to young to understand but should I hide it from him...my feelings I mean.
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April 24th, 2009, 05:47 PM
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Awe! Hugs! I'm sorry to hear about your dog.

I do try to hide when I'm upset from my kids, but it's easier said than done, Phoenix can usually tell and then she gets upset. Lincoln can feel when I'm upset and he becomes upset too.

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April 24th, 2009, 06:13 PM
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I'm sorry about your pup

I don't try to hide emoions from my kids because I think its important for them to learn that emotions are okay and normal; we can't help each other through these feelings if we don't know they're being felt, kwim? I don't want them to grow uo feeling like theu need to bottle up their feelings, too.
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April 27th, 2009, 01:56 PM
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Oh thats the very worst part of owning dogs, having to make that decision. So sorry.
I do try to smile and interact with mine especially babies alot still when down, but of course they sense it anyway. When they get a little bit older i will offer a breif explanation if possible, like when billy was 2 and we were hit a bit by a death. I explained i was a sad because i missed someone etc...
I do agree that it is normal and healthy for children to see sadness and recovery as part of life. greif is normal, hope you find as many things as possible to brighten your day though and offer some comfort today.
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April 29th, 2009, 12:54 PM
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Oh I'm so sorry about your dog!!!

I tend to let dd know how I am feeling, but thats recent. She's 2.5 and perceptive as they come so it works for us for me to share my feelings and let her know that ranges of emotion are okay. It has helped ALOT as I have been insomniac as a preggo person and I am often VERY tired and on occasion quite cranky. I don't want her to question whether or not she is somehow responsible for me being upset. I want her to know that she is in no way responsible for my feelings and really communicate this to her. She seems to get it as she is an incredably happy happy little kid even Mommy is sacked out and cranky as poo!!
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April 29th, 2009, 02:33 PM
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(((HUGS))) I am very sorry about the loss of your dog

I don't hide my feeling from my kids b/c I too think it is important for them to understand that everyone has feelings and it is ok to show them. I know your son is young but you may still want to tell him "Mommy is sad b/c..." and then hug a while.

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