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July 24th, 2009, 11:37 AM
HurricaneLady's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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So Parker goes down for the night usually at around 8-8:30 and we put him in his crib and whenever he wakes up he comes to bed with us. He went through a phase last month (well I guess it probably lasted about 2 months) where he would only sleep about 30-45 minutes and he was up and then up every hour to hour and half after that wanting to nurse....co-sleeping makes that so much easier BUT still leaves me waking up every hour which got to be beyond exausting since I work full time and was not getting even close to the needed sleep to function. I found a solution to that problem (started it 2 weeks ago) by nursing him downstairs at bedtime, and then going upstairs to his room and rocking him to sleep and he'd sleep 2-3 hours and then only wake up 2-3 times per night, I think he became ok without nursing to sleep which for some reason was causing very frequent night waking.

WELL....... the past 4 nights when he wakes up he will come to bed and sometimes go right back to sleep w/o even wanting to nurse BUT all night long he pinches me - and HARD! Or yanks on my hair.....but mostly pinches the living crap out on my arm, back, stomach, face, nipple....whatever he can find - even with his eyes closed! Last night he also kept waking up to scream and arch his back in his sleep it appeared.
Pinching is his new discovery even during the day - we constantly have to take his fingers and say NO - our poor nanny has little dot bruises all up and down her upper arms from him pinching her when she holds him.... I have little scabs bc he seems to break the skin when he does it to me.

So any ideas here? Do you think he just wants his own space now? Or is having nighmares? I don't know what to think - but I am yelling out "Parker NO pinch" all night long now!

Parker Hudson 11/1/08 8.14, 22.5" Frank Breech Csection/Kennedy Eve 11/18/10 9lb, 21" Natural VBAC
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July 24th, 2009, 12:17 PM
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Ouch I am not sure what to tell you since he is only 8 months months old. I am sure someone can help you though.
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July 24th, 2009, 12:41 PM
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Have you tried covering his hands. Jonah was a pincher for a short time, so I tried to keep socks on his hands. His big time was during nursing....so I would place socks on his hands before nursing & remove them after. I am not sure if it will help you or not, but it's worth a try I would think. As far as the crying, that might be nightmares...Jonah started into those about that age....and I am not sure there is much you can do besides soothe them through it.

I do know what you mean about tired, Jonah woke on average 5 or more times a night until he was a year or more & then really started to STTN at 20 months or so & then lately (since I have been pg) has been waking again a couple times a night...ugh...and i work too, have since he was 6 weeks....so it does wear you out no doubt.

Good luck momma. I hope you find something that helps soon!
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July 24th, 2009, 01:56 PM
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Bella does the pinching type thing too. Its so annoying. She is still swaddled at night so she doesnt normally do it then but during the day she does it.... ugh. I just pick her hand up and put my finger in hers.

As for the co-sleeping, I am all about following their lead. If he seems to do better in his bed, let him sleep there. If he does better with you, go with that. Bella goes back and forth on it.

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July 24th, 2009, 02:40 PM
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I was going to suggest wearing long sleeved, loose fitting pjs!
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July 24th, 2009, 02:48 PM
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I was going to suggest wearing long sleeved, loose fitting pjs!
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July 24th, 2009, 03:20 PM
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Great ideas! They also have gowns with little ends on them that you fold over their hands to keep them from scratching their face (or you in this case!) Not sure if he is too big for them.. the ones we had were 0-9 months!
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