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View Poll Results: Co-sleeping goal?
No co-sleeping here 3 10.00%
By 1-2 year I'd like them in their own crib/bed 1 3.33%
By 2-3 years I'd like them in their own crib/bed 3 10.00%
By 3 plus years I'd like them in their own bed 1 3.33%
No age goal 20 66.67%
Explain 2 6.67%
Voters: 30. You may not vote on this poll

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October 7th, 2009, 11:01 PM
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Where do you fit your goal with the co-sleeping issue?
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October 8th, 2009, 04:14 AM
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no real goal here. Just when she is ready to stop coming to bed

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October 8th, 2009, 05:42 AM
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Another "no goal" here. That could change I suppose with another on the way & heaven knows what else may come up in life...but for now I think we will just work with it & see what he needs & what feel works.
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October 8th, 2009, 06:06 AM
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we're gonna play it by ear. we are thinking at least 2 years old in our bed DH says forever, lol!

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October 8th, 2009, 06:15 AM
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Originally Posted by mgm78 View Post
we're gonna play it by ear. we are thinking at least 2 years old in our bed DH says forever, lol!
NO goal here either, but I have said that when the next baby comes, I'd like to move her to her own bed....whenever that is. That is so funny because DH says forever too. He recently said he doesn't mind her being there and he actually enjoys it ALOT. That melted my heart!

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October 8th, 2009, 08:45 AM
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Okay for us we have no age....I never thought I would have 2 kids in bed though...it is fine with us. DH is the one that really started us on the co-sleeping road...lol
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October 8th, 2009, 09:15 AM
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I voted 2-3 years old I would like him in his own bed. But I'm not sure. I love sleeping with him. I'm taking it day by day. I would never force him to sleep alone if he wasn't ready.
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October 8th, 2009, 10:33 AM
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No goal really, I'd guess around 2 years. I think I'll wait until she night weans herself first and how things are otherwise going at the time.

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October 8th, 2009, 02:34 PM
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I voted age 1-2. We are TTC and there is no way we would be able to continue co-sleeping with two. I am trying to get Dave to buy us a King bed though Even then I think I would worry about Matthew rolling onto the baby though. So he will be in his own crib somewhere around a year or two.
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October 8th, 2009, 04:00 PM
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We don't really have an age goal. For now, it works. If I got pregnant again, we might have to rethink it (I don't see myself sleeping with 2 kids in the bed, but then again, I never imagined I would be a cosleeper in the first place).

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October 8th, 2009, 05:27 PM
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Some awesome replies!

It's great to hear how many happy dh's there are. Mine LOVES it too. Recently Samantha started singing Criss-Cross, Applesauce at bedtime. It really is some of the best moments ever!
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October 8th, 2009, 08:10 PM
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I'm probably the odd one out, but I voted no co-sleeping here. Everyone in our home is very happy with that.

Especially the 4 cats who take over the bed
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October 9th, 2009, 08:13 PM
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I voted no age goal. I never imagined that I would be a co-sleeper, but I dearly love it! There is nothing better than falling asleep with my "baby"sleeping on my arm, even if my arm hurts by morning LOL We were away for a few days this week and when we came back, I heard DH tell DD, "I missed you. Daddy can't wait for you to come to bed tonight!"

Such a shame how family/friends think it is a bad thing to do, or "you have to get her out of your bed by the time she is 2.5 or she'll be sleeping in your bed as a teenager."

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October 10th, 2009, 11:13 AM
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I have a love/hate relationship with cosleeping. There are so many sweet moments when I LOVE it but there are definitely times I wish he would sleep in his own bed. But he is not ready yet and I have come to accept that. It's clear he doesn't see the "nursery" as anything but a place to be changed so we are going to work on emptying out the third bedroom up here and getting his "big boy" room ready so that it is there when he is ready. I would be thrilled to be able to get him down in his own bed and then have him join us later as he needs to so I could have the best of both worlds. We also want to try for #2 in about a year and I can only deal with cosleeping with one at a time I think.

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October 10th, 2009, 08:44 PM
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No age goal. We only partially cosleep. He starts out the fisrt part of the night in the PnP or crib, then when he wakes to nurse the first time, he comes into bed with us and stays there. I'll continue this until he doesn't want to anymore.

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October 10th, 2009, 10:20 PM
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No goal. All of my kids have moved on to their own space before a year old, except Sebastian who just made the move at almost 13 months. He has reflux and slept better with us. He's been in his own bed for almost a week and it's going well.

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October 10th, 2009, 11:22 PM
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Kailey is now 3 and we are considering moving her to her own bed because she just moves around way too much. It's never bothered me until the past few months. Everyone said she always squirmend and kicked them but I've NEVER noticed it until now and OMG it's so annoying... LOL!
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October 11th, 2009, 12:58 PM
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no age goal here....I didn't think I'd ever cosleep in the first place...and here we are 1 year into it...and well the three year old comes in sometiems too lol....Dh actually LOVES it....I asked him this question the other day and he said never LOL....he loves her sleeping in our bed...."I can check on her easier" he said LOL....He would have coslept with all of them if I hadn't listened to everyone elses advice....this time I went with MY gut....and so cosleeping it was....I'm so glad!
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October 11th, 2009, 04:55 PM
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No age goal here although Lily is on her own mattress now. We bed-shared until she was a year old and then she seemed to want more space, but she hated her crib. So, we put her crib mattress on the floor by our bed and she sleeps there now.

Most likely we will co-sleep again with the new baby as long as they seem to be happy with it.

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October 11th, 2009, 07:31 PM
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No goal... I remember when I was little I was always very scared to sleep alone... my parents always pushed me to sleep in my own bed. I never want my kids to feel scared at night. I'll do whatever I can to make them comfortable even if that means being with us for awhile...

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