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May 17th, 2012, 07:42 PM
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I feel like such a bad mama tonight. Here's the story (it's long - sorry!)

Tomorrow is the last day for my daughter's favorite preschool teacher. The kids are having a little party for her and I organized a gift for her from the room parents. They told the kids this past Tuesday that Miss J (the teacher) was going to a different school. However, the way they phrased it, I'm not sure the kids understood. For example, they told the kids that Miss J was going to go to a new school to teach those kids to listen just as well as the kids in my daughter's class.

When my daughter and I went to the store to pick up Miss J's gift, DD asked why we were getting her a gift. I immediately knew that she didn't realize she wasn't going to be there anymore. So I told her very softly that we were buying Miss J a gift because she wasn't going to be at her school anymore. DD asked immediately "But will she come back on Monday?" And I had to tell her that she wasn't going to come back to school anymore.

DD broke down in sobs!!! She loves Miss J very much and she has been a wonderful teacher to DD. Ugh. I feel like such a bad mama for making her realize that Miss J won't be there anymore but I didn't want Monday to roll around and have DD ask where she was and then be sad she didn't say good-bye.

I just hate being the one who tells my daughter something that makes her cry. Of course, being pregnant didn't help either because then I started to cry too. We were two blubbering messes in a gray Toyota Corolla today.
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May 17th, 2012, 08:29 PM
Jule'sMomInOR's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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So sorry! I do you think you did the right thing, though. If she had to wait until Monday to find out, I bet she would have been a blubbering mess at school, and then you wouldn't have been able to comfort her.

It's tough when kids get attached to someone who leaves. Our nanny of more than a year just had her last day and Juliana is already asking for "Bu Bu". It's so sad.
Mariah, AP Mommy to Juliana

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May 17th, 2012, 08:59 PM
joonzgurl's Avatar Proud mama of 2 girls
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Aww, it's cute that they get attached to others so much (and kind of relieving to here) but so sad when they have to say goodbye.

I agree you did the right thing.

Proud mama to:

Avery Elizabeth (08/27/2011) & Dawsyn Brielle (10/29/2013)
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May 18th, 2012, 05:30 AM
mgm78's Avatar Zoe's mom Meredith
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One of DD's teachers who had been at the preschool for 10 years left in December and they had a party, etc and all the kids were ok with it (but there are 5 or 6 other teachers) and DD was ok with it as she had only been there 5 months and attached to two others. I believe he has come back to visit a few times, but I was very sad, because he made the best lunches for the kids!

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