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February 20th, 2013, 07:21 AM
joonzgurl's Avatar Proud mama of 2 girls
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I successfully have Avery down to 2 feeds per day- nap time and first thing in the AM. (sometimes 3x if she takes 2 naps).

The problem is I don't know where to go from here. Both of these feeds seem very important to her, to the point that she screams and cries for 40+ minutes to the point where she is gagging herself if I don't nurse her.

The morning feed is the worst for me, I really really want to get it cut out. When we night weaned I didn't nurse her until after 5:30am. Well now like clockwork she is awake between 5 and 5:45 every single morning wanting her num nums. And 9/10 she is up for the day at that time. It doesn't matter if she goes to bed at 7pm or 9pm, come 5am she is ready for her nursing session. So she must have some sense of time. And I am freaking exhausted getting up that early being in the first trimester, the exhaustion has hit me. I went to bed by 9 last night and I was still exhausted this morning.

DH isn't willing to help me really, and I don't expect him to because he has been out of the house 14-15 hours per day with work lately.

So anyways, WWYD? Would you slow down and wait a while longer? I cut out the bedtime feed with no trouble at all about 10 days ago. I am ready to move forward with weaning. But is she telling me she is not ready? Do I just bite the bullet and do it and listen to her cry a lot over the next few days?

Kind of stuck here. I'd really like to get her weaned.

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February 20th, 2013, 07:38 AM
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have you tried offering her a sippy with milk in the a.m. instead of boobs?
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February 20th, 2013, 07:59 AM
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Have you talked to her about it a lot ahead of time? With M that was huge so she didn't feel as confused. And also having a cup of milk or juice or any kind of favorite food/drink READY to offer instead, before she even has time to figure out what is happening, is key. Imagine waking up super hungry/thirsty and realizing there is no food or water.

Hopefully that will work!! When I weaned M we dropped the going-to-sleep feeds last and a sili squeeze of yogurt always helped a lot as she transitioned to not eating at night anymore. And we talked about how nursies were stopping soon a lot for a few days before anything happened. She was way more accepting than I expected. But then again my milk was thin and yucky and drying up from the pregnancy, so that must have helped

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February 20th, 2013, 12:23 PM
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I think having a drink or snack ready to go sounds like a great idea. When I was looking into baby sleep issues, I remember seeing a theory that babies' digestive systems will kick into gear and wake them up about 45 minutes before a regular feeding time. So if they wake at 5:30 and get food right away, they will start waking at like 4:45 once they get used to the schedule. Is there anything you can use to distract her for like 45 minutes after waking so that maybe you can eventually push back her wake time?

Short of that, maybe you can make her regular bedtime closer to 7 so that you can go to bed earlier? I hate doing that, and you probably do, too, but at least it would give you a couple extra hours to sleep.
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February 20th, 2013, 04:45 PM
joonzgurl's Avatar Proud mama of 2 girls
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Thank you for the input ladies, I truly do appreciate it.

I have tried with a sippy cup of water before, but never with milk or actual food. I should give that a try, but offering a sippy of water does not go over well so I am not sure how she will react to a different substitute. I wonder though if I get her food she will keep waking up? The pipe dream of course is if I cut this feed out she will sleep a bit later.

I do often go to bed early, like 8 or 9 lately. She goes to bed between 7 and 8:30 on a usual night, depending on if she has had 1 or 2 naps. I obviously prefer the early nights, LOL! Hopefully once I have some more energy I will have my evenings back.

And I will admit, I have been napping every day and neglecting the housework. That helps.

Back to weaning though, I will try out a snack/milk as soon as she is over her cold and hope that she accepts that instead.

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Avery Elizabeth (08/27/2011) & Dawsyn Brielle (10/29/2013)
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February 21st, 2013, 11:17 AM
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Are you in a hurry to wean? As your milk supply drops/milk changes taste she may lose interest in nursing. We were down to just one nursing session at one point when I was pregnant. I had a hunch that if I wanted to wean then that it would have been easy. I wasnt looking to wean though.

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