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FunSized February 15th, 2012 11:14 PM

Simply Why?
Last month in January, I lost my boyfriend and the father of our baby who is due to be born anywhere in the 2-3 weeks. He wasn't fully excited about the baby, but was at least supporting me with my decision to keep. His death wasn't an accident or on purpose, but a mistake.

I must say, I am not sure how I will react emotionally once the baby is born as already in the 3D u/s pics, he looks just like his father did in his baby pics. And I also worry further down the road when he is old enough and starts asking questions about his father, how I would approach the subject. I don't want my son to ever feel like it was his fault.

I am coping as well as I can with my boyfriend's death, but its hard... I was in the hospital when it happened, and I got a text message at 8:28am from him, simply saying "Good Bye". I tried texting him back, confused with the message, but he never replied. I wish I knew WHY and if there was anything I could have done to help. He showed no signs of depression or even having that as a thought. He was happy, always laughing and his life was getting better... I'm just at a loss

CBTECH February 17th, 2012 02:30 PM

Re: Simply Why?
I'm very sorry for your loss.

I can't say from experience but you're probably going to hit an emotional rollercoaster for the next while. When your son starts asking questions you'll know how to discuss it with him, and probably without having to go into details about certain things. Make sure you surround yourself with friends and family who will help keep you in a good place and help with your son when he arrives. They will be your back bone when you feel like there's no where to go or nothing you can do. Stay strong.

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