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Xx5Xy1+ July 4th, 2009 01:16 AM

I'm out... no hb for me :(
They found I have a bilobate placenta which increases my risk of post-partum hemorhage. It's also an indication that I could have problems with the umbilical cord which could potentially be life threatening for Madison once my water breaks... so, because of that we've decided that it would be best if I deliver at the hospital.

My midwife did tell me that if I make it to term, she would still come and tend to me at the hospital which is nice. She speaks pretty good english and I know her, so she can run interferance between the staff and I so I can focus on having a natural labor and not be forced to lay in a bed on a monitor and deliver laying down (right now, I see myself giving birth squatting... obviously that depends on how I feel in the moment).

My midwife was sad that we choose to deliver in a hospital, she said bilobate placenta can be delivered at home, however the OB has convinced (gently) dh that we would be better in the hospital and since there is no way to know about the umbilical cord until my water breaks, I'd rather already be at the hospital and close to an OR if I need an emergency c/s to get Madison out fast. Of course all of this is assuming they don't find something to increase their worry about the umbilical cord, then I'd end up with a c/s at 35 weeks (before I could go into labor but late enough to give Madison as much time as possible to develop her lungs). Needless to say, its been a very long week and I've cried many times. Dh asked me if I was comfortable with the decision and I told him "Comfortable isn't the right word... understanding the neccessity yes.... comfortable, no." I told him this means he's going to have to REALLY learn about the various interventions (risks, benifits, when the benifits outweigh the risks, etc) so he can stand up to the staff.... but also so he can stand up to me if need be (I don't see myself willingly accepting a c/s unless I'm bleeding). But I have to know that he is FULLY understanding of the risks for me to be able to take him seriously during labor.

I wish all of you wonderful ladies the best and will probably at least read thru the threads even if I don't reply.

_Brandy_ July 4th, 2009 09:36 AM

Re: I'm out... no hb for me :(
I am sorry to hear this. I hope you are at peace with your choices.

Xx5Xy1+ July 4th, 2009 04:19 PM

Re: I'm out... no hb for me :(
Right now I'd say I'm more resigned than 'at peace'.

wifey2kevin July 5th, 2009 05:12 PM

Re: I'm out... no hb for me :(
i'm so sorry! ****HUGS****

Del4 July 8th, 2009 07:16 PM

Re: I'm out... no hb for me :(
i'm so sorry! i'm out, as well. my dad had some health problems shortly after we made our decision to go unassisted and my step-mom has to be there to take care of him for the next 6 weeks. Just long enough that she can't make our birth. We'll be going with a hospital now because by the time all this happened, I was past 36 weeks and the midwife would no longer take me. *sigh* Ah well, such is life. Good luck to you and your natural birth at a hospital! I think I'd make the same decision as you in your situation.

inyourhonor July 8th, 2009 07:25 PM

Re: I'm out... no hb for me :(
I'm so sorry to both of you :(

Just know that we'd love to still have you around even if you're not going to have the HB you wanted.

noworries July 9th, 2009 02:14 PM

Re: I'm out... no hb for me :(
You can still have a wonderful, natural, hospital birth...I did with my daughter. I know it's disappointing but having a healthy little baby in your arms is really the most important end result. I hope you make it full term and your midwife will still be there with you.

soImarriedAnerd July 9th, 2009 08:52 PM

Re: I'm out... no hb for me :(
:dothug: But don't give up on natural at the hospital--its very doable-just a little more work.

Del4 July 10th, 2009 10:56 AM

Re: I'm out... no hb for me :(
Oh, we're still totally going natural! lol They'll have to strap me down and knock me out to do any interventions lol. And I have zero problem telling them I'll sue their butts off if they don't leave me alone. I'll still get to birth how I want, I'll just have to fight for it. :D

Good luck again, Xx5 (sorry, don't know your name). You can still totally do a natural birth. I'm glad your midwife will hopefully be there to support you.

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