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TeresaSuperMama December 11th, 2009 08:02 AM

Have you always wanted to homebirth?
I wanted to homebirth with my second, but wasn't very knowledgable on it back then. I couldn't find a midwife. I gave up on the idea with my third and thought about it again with my fifth, but couldn't get dh on board with it. Now I am absolutely set on it, but I am expecting to have at least one more fight about it with dh. He can't make me go to the hospital though so he's going to have to get over this one. I am not going back!

Twinkle December 11th, 2009 09:17 AM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
No, it wasn't anything I had ever considered until after my first's birth. I was truly traumatized with that experience, that I knew I'd never do anything like that again. COuldn't get DH on board with #2, so we had a waterbirth at a hospital based birthing center with a midwife.

flitabout December 11th, 2009 09:58 AM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
From the time I knew there was a choice I wanted to do it. I never thought I would be able to qualify because of having a c-section. Now here I am 3 c/s down and finally going for my long awaited home birth!

lhug_nar December 11th, 2009 10:17 AM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
I never thought about it until I met my midwife since DS1 was a preemie born at 26 weeks and DS2 was a c-section (which ultimately was an unnecessary caesarian). I'm excited to be able to do things my way this time and let my body do what it's designed to do!

jhmomofmany December 11th, 2009 11:23 AM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
No, it was something I grew into. I wanted a "natural" birth with my first, but ended up having him 15 weeks early. I'm fortunate, however, because these days they automatically take preemies by c-section, and they allowed me to deliver him normally. My second I sorta wanted to avoid drugs, but ended up having an epidural.

My third I had a crappy OB, a crappy hospital, and ended up feeling completely violated and misused. He ordered drugs I had told him I didn't want (painkillers and pitocin) and gave me an episiotomy from stem to stern for no good reason. Then later he joked how I almost made him late to pick up a buddy from the airport. So, by my fourth, I knew I wanted something different. I ended up with a wonderful OB and choosing a hospital across town. We talked with the doc about what we wanted, and he even agreed to letting DH catch the baby with help. But I still had to go through a lot of testing, ended up on IV, confined to bed, with pitocin and all that crap I had said I didn't want. And yet another episiotomy because I "needed" one.

Fifth baby we decided to have a homebirth and located a midwife about halfway through the pregnancy. Despite "needing" pitocin and episiotomies four times previous, I had him at home with no drugs and no tearing whatsoever. I hardly even bled afterward, it was amazing!

How's that for making a short story long. ;)

Kelllilee December 11th, 2009 11:39 AM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
I started wanting it midway through my second pregnancy, but didn't want to change providers at that point.

inyourhonor December 11th, 2009 12:08 PM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
With my 1st birth, I knew I wanted to have a vaginal one and was open to medications. I didn't know a lot about home births and what I did know freaked me out because I was only 19 and at that age my mind frame was elsewhere.

After how that experience went, I knew I couldn't put trust into a hospital again unless I absolutely had to. Then we watched The Business of Being Born and that pushed me even more to work hard for a HBAC.

WishingStar December 11th, 2009 12:26 PM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
I didn't think of it much with my first. Until I went to a doctor who had a midwife and absolutely LOVED the care I got with her. I decided then and there I only wanted midwives. It wasn't until my 4th that I really started to consider a homebirth. And dh wasn't on board at that point. But, now, we're hoping for it.

Alison79 December 11th, 2009 12:42 PM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
I had a vague notion of wanting a completely unmedicated birth but always ended up with epidurals in the hospital. When we moved to Dallas and found out the c-section rate at most of our local hospitals I seriously looked into birthing at home. I am so lucky that we have a lot of great midwives in the area and home birthing here isn't seen as strange. I have no desire to have a hospital birth unless it was an emergency situation for me or the baby.

Buttercups December 14th, 2009 06:58 AM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
Yes. I got to attend my aunt's homebirth when I was 15. That sealed the deal!

wifey2kevin December 14th, 2009 10:15 AM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
no. i didn't really think about it till i was preggo with my first and my mom kinda talked me into it. (she has 7 kids and the last 3 were home births) good thing she talked me into it...i wouldn't want it any other way!

TeresaSuperMama December 14th, 2009 12:12 PM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
It's interesting hearing everyone's path to becoming interested in homebirth. Thanks for sharing your experiences and thoughts.

HappyHippy December 14th, 2009 03:34 PM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
I didn't know homebirth was even an option with my first son. It's nothing something you ever hear about around here. I knew my grandma had 2 babies at home, unassisted, but to me that was the "old days". My OB who delieverd my son at the birth center was fairly open about natural childbirth. He wasn't c-section, induction, intervention happy, etc. After the peaceful birth of my son I started looking into ways I could help in the birthing community. I loved being pregnant, birthing, and being a mom and wanted to continue being in that community. I started looking at Midwifery and then my options for homebirthing became real. I have become active in the homebirth/Midwife community and feel very proud of it.

flamingpeachfish December 14th, 2009 04:39 PM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
No... I had kind of heard about it when I was pregnant with my first, but I didn't think it was something that anyone actually chose to do- it didn't seem like a real option. I did want a natural, very non interventionist birth though, and while it could have been a heckuva lot worse, it was really not the birth I wanted and I felt awful about it for a long time afterward.

It wasn't until I was pregnant with my son that I realized that it was impossible to have the birth I wanted in a hospital setting, even if I did fight for it. The further the pregnancy progressed, the more terrified I got of having to go back, and I started seriously exploring alternatives. So at that point, homebirth became more real, and we switched to a midwife somewhere around 7 or 8 months along, and went on to have a lovely homebirth.

Now I'm the opposite-- something would have to be seriously not right to get me to have my kids in a hospital!

~Jackie December 15th, 2009 07:21 AM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
I was all for NCB with my MW in the hospital but the hospital sucked and b/c of being uncomfortable there my body would not work with me so the NCB was not possible (I did get to 10cm on my own though!).. I said screw the hospitals I'm doing a homebirth next (do not need medication for my heart so now I could), had Nola and now I'm considering doing a UA. We live right across the street from a hospital.

Honestly... I wouldn't mind hospitals, I love being waited on hand and foot and taken care of. If they just worked like they're SUPPOSE to hospitals would be heaven to give birth in!

CameraLinds December 15th, 2009 09:51 AM

Re: Have you always wanted to homebirth?
I knew I always wanted a natural, vaginal, drug free birth but I never knew until meeting DH that homebirths were possible! :) We knew before we got prego we'd have a homebirth and if not that a birthing center birth.

Owl December 16th, 2009 10:17 AM

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Not at all. It almost makes me laugh when I consider how much I've changed!

I used to watch the baby shows and if anyone even mentioned a homebirth I thought, "Why would you ever want to do that?!". Now I think, "Why wouldn't you want to?" :lol:

I had a CNM with my first birth. She was the most amazing person I've ever met. She just "got" me. I felt absolutely at ease with her. She only does hospital deliveries and I was not going back to that hospital with my second (they're very disorganized...we got a bill for the birth when DS was 11 months old!).

I didn't know who to go to for my second birth. It's a long story, but I ended up having an OB and having DD in a different hospital. That hospital was wonderful with their newborn policies. But the OB still didn't know my son's name by the end of my pregnancy and I have a whole bunch of other issues with her/that model of care.

Here I am, not even pregnant again, but I'm dead set on a homebirth for #3. From the books, blogs, birth stories I've read, from the shows I've watched it seems like the only way for me!

So here I am

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