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Martha83 September 23rd, 2010 12:42 PM

crossing fingers
I just wrote a note to my midwife from my last pregnancy/birth...she was part of the birthing center in the town I delivered in...which is now closed....she did quit before it closed so she may not be interested....

Anyway the other midwives still practice midwifery but I didn't know any of them personally AND they charge the upper end of the "average" for homebirth midwives that I've seen....I'm having a hard time finding others in the area...so I went out on a limb and wrote my old midwife a note and asked if she was interested in being our midwife in the event dh said yes to a homebirth (my thinking is he might be more comfy knowing the mw already)....and then I said if she isn't interested I was pretty sure I had heard she was still serving as a doula for other couples...I asked how much she charged and asked IF I ended up at a hossy which one would she recommend for the most "natural" birth experience....

Crossing fingers I get a positive response. I really really really would love to have her again...I doubt I will I think she's moved on to another career (acting)....but just MAYBE she'd be interested....worst she can say is NO and then I'm in the same spot I'm in now!

CameraLinds September 24th, 2010 06:39 AM

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T&Ps!! hope you get great news from her and that convinces your DH ;)

Martha83 September 24th, 2010 06:52 AM

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thanks...still nothing back from her....but maybe she's thinking about it?

Martha83 September 24th, 2010 12:43 PM

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*sigh* well she isn't doing homebirths rightnow....she's not set up to do it yet. (YET...wah)...Anyway....she did say that she'd love to attend the birth as a doula and gave me her pricing on that. And gave a suggestion as to which doctor to use saying that they had a great working relationship...so I'll check him out if it comes to that....but currently I'm still working on dh and working on finding a midwife.

CameraLinds September 25th, 2010 01:46 AM

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Aww i'm sorry about her not doing births but yay for doula! :)

sodagirl September 25th, 2010 01:58 AM

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cool :) good luck!

Twinkle September 25th, 2010 05:20 AM

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Would she serve as a doula at a home birth? Maybe your DH would feel comfortable if she was in attendance, even as a doula.

Martha83 September 25th, 2010 08:47 AM

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OH I'm sure....

Here is the hold up I know for SURE right now. I've contacted our insurance and asked them if they would cover a midwife for prenatal and postpartum care (obviously I said NOTHING about a homebirth) to see if they would cover any of the 4000. I doubt they will I"ve heard nothing but bad about Aetna. But it's worth a try. If I can get them to cover some/most of it...then I would be closer to a homebirth. So that is my current position....at this point I'm saddened that it just is not possible....I get all panicky and anxious thinking of the hospital. So I'm not giving up on HB....but having to look outside the box to make it possible...

IF Insurance would cover most of it I might be able to convince dh of it AND pay for the doula...if not he's only willing to pay for the doula....

We'll see...keep crossing your fingers and saying prayers for me if you would!

Martha83 September 25th, 2010 09:28 AM

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OK!!! Well I got a response from the insurance company...and they DO cover midwifery care. YAY!!! I'm not sure how MUCH they'll cover (as in what they will want to negotiate to)....but as long as deductible is met, they'll cover 80-100% after that (it was hard to understand the mumbo jumbo)...and that is if we file THIS year on our current plan. Josh can change his plan at the beginning of the year to a plan that would provide better coverage if we wish....otherwise we'd have a new deductible after the first of the year. Which we would have regardless to where we birth. I'm not sure if insurance will accept a "future" bill though???Do you all know? Like if I had them file for it this year but it includes all prenatal and postpartum appointments?

I tried to find how much this part of the prenatal stuff woudl cost at an OB...like how much each appt and urine-analysis and all that jazz would cost....I'd like to see if they can get what they can fromt he insurance and then pay what is left.....

I dont even know if I will be ABLE to worry about it...but it is reassuring that they'll at least cover it...OH and there is one CNM on the team in the group that is near....and she is an approved provider thru my insurance so it's not even out of network! yeah!

KtKuKi September 27th, 2010 09:14 PM

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Martha! I came over to this board to start inquiring about home birth and I saw your post! I hope you can have one, that would be so exciting!

Martha83 September 28th, 2010 11:27 AM

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:) Kaite...Great to see you!!!!! Stick around these ladies are SO helpful!!!!

I gave Josh a deadline...I said "I'm 7 weeks....I'd like to have our mind made up by 10 weeks....so I want to watch the video and read the info with you SOON so that we have time to think and pray about it...."

He said "You know, I'm PROBABLY not going to change my mind but I'll watch and read what you want me to"...

PROBABLY means he's going to think about it...I just need that open crack in his mind to pour the info into....LOL....

Then I said "I appreciate you being willing to see my side...."

He then just said "well sure...I dont mind watching the stuff....just dont get your hopes up" LOL...

Anyway...it sounds better than when I first brought it up it was a firm NO ABSOLUTELY NOT....and now it's PROBABLY NOT lol

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