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sugary~snails November 30th, 2010 01:40 PM

Told our family
We have been putting off telling our family abotu the homebirth. My mom specifically isnt comfortable with the use of a midwife vs OB. My MIL hemmoraged after the birth of my DH so convincing her that the midwives bring Pitocin to help prevent post partum hemmorages was hard. My mom didnt say ALOT. my step dad jokingly said we would be kicked out of the apartment because of screaming..and what would I do when I decided I needed the epi. DH fielded the questions..I dont really do good under pressure. my step dad was easy to convince..my mom didnt say a whole lot. I assured them that every percaution is taken..and just because I am currently planning it..doesnt mean it will come to fruition. I have a whole list of criteria I have to meet before the midwives will deliver at home..and any sign of anything I am thrown in an ambulance and rushed to the hospital. I think that made them feel better..but my mom hasnt said much to me at all.
Convincing my MIL was pretty easy.our Chiropractor is a huge home birth advocate..and even before we told her our choice our chiropractor was telling her all the wonderful things about home birth.
noone is jumping for joy..but at least everyone knows.
The only supportive person is my grandmother :lol: and if you knew her you would understand why it is funny

Martha83 November 30th, 2010 02:40 PM

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Oh how wonderful...that probably is a weight off your chest. Josh's family doesn't know and WONT know....I wont lie to them but when they ask (cause they will) what hospital we want to have the baby we are going to just say we dont know yet...then after the birth we'll be able to tell them....they didn't really know we were using a birth center last time....but we had told them they just didn't listen. They will NOT be supportive...they dont support many of our current choices...and Josh doesn't want to hear it so we aren't telling them...

My parents know.

Anyway...YAY for you telling you parents and his....

HappyHippy November 30th, 2010 05:24 PM

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I'm glad no one is being horrible about it. I've heard horror stories of people when they tell. Everyone for me was super supportive. My MIL was the only concerned one because she had 2 c-sections.

marialena November 30th, 2010 08:49 PM

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It took my mom the entire pregnancy to get used to the idea and she was still worried until the baby was out and we were both safe. This time she is completly supportive of my decision and trusts whatever choices i make. Just have confience in your choices and everyone else will follow. At least telling everyone has been accomplished and you can move on to the rest of the pregnancy.

lrowe70 December 16th, 2010 01:08 AM

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Haven't even considered telling our families, in fact at this time they don't even know we are expecting.
I'm not close to my in-laws so I feel no pressure to tell them anything at any time. Most of my side of the family will be thrilled and probably won't even hear the part about home birth(it's the first grandchild on either side and the first baby in over 16 years among ANY of our first relatives) My mom won't like it, but she doesn't tend to like anything I do, so I don't care. We're not close.
Some of our friends may find it odd, but they shouldn't take issue.

**Nicole** December 16th, 2010 08:01 AM

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hey i am being supportive i am all for it

Earthy.Mama December 16th, 2010 12:15 PM

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That must be a weight off your chest! At least she didn't say anything negative about it. When people don't understand or aren't educated about something they usually spout ignorance, so silence is better!!! Perhaps she'll look into homebirth more out of her own concerns for you and find that it's actually great! :)

HippyMomOf4 December 16th, 2010 12:19 PM

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that's great u told them. I felt great when I told family but my parents a hippies so it was easy telling them LOL the only one who had a problem was my aunt.

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