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mommybugnbugga January 31st, 2011 06:20 PM

Ignorance is definitly not bliss!
I have to share with you ladies a recent conversation with my eldest sister. For someone with 2 children, she is very uneducated when it comes to childbirth. We were talking about home birth vs. hospital birth. And here is part of the conversation:

Sister: What do you do if your water breaks?
Me: What do you mean? I labor like everyone else.
Sister: No, I mean you only have 12 hours before you have to have a c-section, or the baby will die
Me: (looong dramatic pause) Um, where did you hear that?
Sister: I had two kids and I have friends that are L&D nurses and they all say the same thing, if a baby is not out 12 hours after your water breaks your baby will die.
Me: How will it die?
Sister: The baby can't breathe anymore because you have no amniotic fluid left and the baby will suffocate to death!

At this point (as terrible as it sounds) I laughed out loud at her! I asked if she had ever watched a birth, and she admitted she hadn't. I told her to watch one and watch how much fluid comes out AFTER the baby is born. I reassured her that I have done the research and it is actually normal for birth to take more than 12 hours once water is broken and it is OK. She doesn't believe me and thinks even more so that I am crazy! The conversation got much more entertaining on how uneducated she really was about pregnancy, labor and delivery.

pink_piggy January 31st, 2011 08:03 PM

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OMG LOL!! I'm so sorry it's not funny, but that right there is the exact attitude I'm talking about in the thread I just posted today. I read in a book or online, I cannot remember... maybe it was Born in the USA??? That a ladies water broke and I believe she didn't give birth until 3 (or 2) weeks later and her baby was just fine! Ugh preg brain strikes again! But it goes to show you that your baby is just fine. My OB just told me that if my water breaks I have to immediately go to the hospital.. um... whatever... like I want them using every intervention on me b/c of their skewed views. No thanks!

HappyHippy January 31st, 2011 09:49 PM

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Um, you keep making amniotic fluid. I've never heard the 12 hour rule, only the 24 hour rule and it's not because baby will die, it's because the risk of infection increases. It's sad that she's been lied to and didn't bother to second guess it, or that those people who told her that actually think that and they work in the medical feild. SCARY!

Twinkle February 1st, 2011 12:02 PM

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Oh goodness. It really makes me sad how uneducated some women choose to be when it comes to birth. You spend more time picking out a stroller or a carseat then researching your the labor and birth process.

HippyMomOf4 February 1st, 2011 01:30 PM

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Wow is all I can say

mommybugnbugga February 1st, 2011 01:49 PM

Re: Ignorance is definitly not bliss!

Originally Posted by Twinkle (Post 22929992)
Oh goodness. It really makes me sad how uneducated some women choose to be when it comes to birth. You spend more time picking out a stroller or a carseat then researching your the labor and birth process.

This is exactly how my sister was! She spent MONTHS researching car seats and cribs but didn't ever stop to ask questions about her pregnancy. I will admit, with my first I did whatever the dr. said, with my second, I started questioning and stood up for somethings, but not everything, now this one I have done so much research and questioning I feel more educated than ever before.

And Pink_Piggy, I did LOL when she said it. It is funny how uneducated people are but then want to lecture those who have actually taken the time on educating themselves about what is right and what is wrong.

lrowe70 February 1st, 2011 11:41 PM

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Not surprising. It seems every woman I know who birthed at a hospital has a story about how they almost died and the baby got out "just in time". Seems like everyone is a high risk pregnancy these days. Sheesh, just look at the numbers of C sections. Some hospitals are up to 40%!

In my opinion I feel that the whole goal of hospitals and OBs is to put fear into women. This way women will opt for tons of expensive drugs and then give birth in time for the doctor to make it to their golf game. *Yeah I have issues with some modern medicine*

In order to convince my husband to have a homebirth, I agreed to see an OB at least once. In only 30 minutes the doctor put enough fear into me that I got suckered into getting $200 worth of useless tests. I finally put my foot down when they tried to convice me to get tested for some sort of disease that only Jewish people get(we're not Jewish).

sharita February 11th, 2011 10:55 PM

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Wow! My water broke 36 hours before my first contraction. He was born two hours after that. I definitely kept making fluid because I had to wear a diaper for those days, it just kept gushing out.

I also remember watching some pregnancy medical show where a woman's water broke at 26 or so weeks and she stayed pregant like 2 more months.

It's amazing the things someone can tell a pregnant woman and she believes. Some of the old wives tales still going strong. I had to convince my mother that no, if I raised my hands above my head, my baby wouldn't get tangled on the cord. Crazy.

When my water broke that many days before labor started, my grandmother tried to scare me about "dry birth". Nothing dry about birth, thats for sure.

WendyBird February 22nd, 2011 01:34 PM

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Oh my goodness, that is just sad. Sad that she believes it, and sad that so many others seem to as well. But, yeah, funny as well!

Earthy.Mama February 22nd, 2011 09:23 PM

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If the baby can't breathe because of the fluid- WHY is there an umbilical cord with blood (oxygen)?

Lets put 2 + 2 together.

The 12 hr thing is not because the baby can die, Dr.'s feel the need to give antibiotics at this point for fear of infection since there is an opening to the womb - not because the baby will die.

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