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sexypepsi25 December 1st, 2010 09:07 AM

I feel like such a failure
This pregnancy is hard emotionally and physically. Nothing is wrong with the baby it's just difficult and I feel like a faliure. I've had 2 root canals and dread going to the dentist, I'm great with my teeth but 5 pregnancy have done my teeth in. Plus now being pregnant mess them with all the hormones. Doesn't help with the pregnancy I ate ice like candy. I hate that I had to pay for the root canals which took away from my kids. Christmas is difficult this year and I feel like I'm to blame. I know that my emotions are getting the best of me, and I wish my mom would help me out just a lil but she basically say I brought this on myself I can deal with it. Dh is really helpful when hie is home but he can't stay home the whole 9 months. I know that these first handful of weeks are the hardest I feel like nothing I do is good enough or worry that I'm not spending enough time with my kids. UGH ! If you 've made it this far thank you I know you would understand seeing how rough it can be at time with large family.

Farmers-wife December 1st, 2010 09:36 AM

Re: I feel like such a failure
There is nothing wrong with taking care of your teeth. I know what you mean, though, about feeling guilty. But don't. There.

Lump your mom. Just take it very slow and easy each day. Eliminate all but the "have tos". One thing a day is more than enough. I think my favorite thing about the new baby is that we have eliminated just about everything. Everyone has had to give up some wants and learn to get along a little better without me holding their hands. It is good for them.

I know it is emotionally draining, but it is worth it. Try to rest and relax! Let everyone sit around and watch TV until you can't stand it anymore!

Momtothe6thpower December 1st, 2010 11:23 AM

Re: I feel like such a failure
I completely understand what your saying, but you really shouldn't feel guilty. Pregnant or not all mommas have to take care of themselves.

FW gave some great advice...find time to relax and don't worry about things being perfect. Serve easy meals for the next few weeks, put the kids in charge of clean up and let them do it their way, plan lots of movie nights on the couch for family time and up the bedtime for a little while.

Just_Marie December 1st, 2010 01:23 PM

Re: I feel like such a failure
((hugs)) December can be very stressful, but you also need to take care of you. Take everything one breath at a time.

#5in2005 December 1st, 2010 05:01 PM

Re: I feel like such a failure
Oral health is super important, and the bacteria in your mouth affect bacteria in other places, so you are doing a good thing taking care of your teeth. I felt the same after a crown though.

Eventually this will all be a distant memory too, but we are here for you to vent or whatever :)

8miraclez December 2nd, 2010 01:23 PM

Re: I feel like such a failure
Don't feel guilty for one minute. If it was one of your kids, you'd do the same thing. You need to take care of yourself as much as them so you will be around a long time. I know how stressful Christmas can be too. My DH just lost his job and I hadn't even begun to do Christmas shopping. I feel bad that I can't even enjoy being pregnant. It's hard. Just take some time for yourself. If you're happy, everyone else will be happy too.

shebur December 4th, 2010 01:29 PM

Re: I feel like such a failure
Big Hugs.

I suffer with my teeth and always seem to have a problem even though I really try and look after them.

I am in pain as I type this.

Hang on in there.


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