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therevslady October 6th, 2012 07:02 AM

Oh my ^*&Y*#
One of the Deacons at my church called to ask if I could take in some kids. Their mom was arrested under drug and prostitution charges, and they possibly need a permanent change in their living situation. My gut immediately said yes. But then I found out there are 6 kids. They are between the ages of 5 and 12. Goodness. I JUST DON'T KNOW! My house would increase exponentially in levels of crazy! And we only have one (maybe two) open bedrooms. I haven't said yes or no yet. But this might be about to happen. Please keep me in your thoughts- our life might be changing BIG TIME in the very near future. I would hate to see these kids get split up.

HalfDozen October 6th, 2012 09:20 AM

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WOW!! What a great opportunity to help, but I can certainly see how that would disrupt your life at home, too. Definitely a lot to consider. Praying you come to the right decision for everyone.

mom2many2010 October 6th, 2012 09:43 AM

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That is a huge increase!

Do they know for how long? I mean if you are just going to be a temporary stay till they find something permanent I would do it. Long term, I may need to think on that one.

Good luck, those kids are lucky to have good people helping them out!

Momtothe6thpower October 6th, 2012 12:18 PM

Wow!! That's a big change. I can't give you any advice because I would be caught in the middle of wanting to and being terrified to all at the same time. Such a hard decision. Praying it all works out!

UrbanMomma October 6th, 2012 12:28 PM

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Prayers for you.

Kristina October 6th, 2012 12:31 PM

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WoW that would be an increase, I hope all works out for you all.

Alison79 October 6th, 2012 12:36 PM

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Oh wow! Thinking of you as you make this decision.

~mommy~ October 6th, 2012 06:32 PM

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WOW!!!! I would take them in a heartbeat. Dh and I have talked about adopting sib sets so that they would not be separated. I'm sure that will be a huge change in your world, but what a wonderful thing that the dc's worlds won't be as drastically changed in that they can stay together. :wub:

MIL2lissy8 October 6th, 2012 08:11 PM

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^ i like what she said!! God bless you for even considering it!!!

Farmers-wife October 7th, 2012 08:06 AM

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I would totally do it short term. Long term would take serious prayer and thought. Best wishes as you make your choice.

sarahlorrain October 7th, 2012 01:10 PM

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That's a huge decision! I could see doing it short term, but I personally wouldn't be able to do it for 6 additional children. Keep us updated!

wishing October 7th, 2012 05:41 PM

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That is a huge responsibility good luck with your decission. Those children will definately need a loving stable home to help them break the cycle set by their bio mom.

If you do agree will the church assist you?

Babymakes8 October 7th, 2012 06:16 PM

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Many prayers as you are considering this decision. I think it would be wonderful if you help the children in this way

#5in2005 October 8th, 2012 07:37 AM

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Wow that is a big decision.

I'm with FW on this one, short term sure. Long term, I'm not sure. You would want to make sure you have a lot of support in place, moneywise and even domesticated wise. I took in my 17 year old nephew this spring, and he's just one and he's older and he is a good kid, but he's A LOT of work. It took a lot of patience from my other kids and they required a lot of extra attention too.
Hats of to you for considering it, good luck.

Just_Marie October 9th, 2012 11:31 PM

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huge decision which will impact all of the kids, including your own-prayers for the right thing to happen for everyone involved

therevslady October 10th, 2012 06:44 AM

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Thanks everyone for your kind words! Very encouraging when everyone else looked at me wide-eyed for even considering it! Our church was able to help find them an arrangement that is hopefully better off for everyone. There is a childless couple who is taking guardianship and there is a government program that will pay for them to go to boarding school together. It's an option that the mother of the children got VERY excited about since she feels the education and location change will help give her children opportunities she couldn't give them. I am so happy to find a solution that seems to make everyone happy! Looks like I don't need to go shopping for a 12 passenger right now after all, lol.

Counting our Blessings October 10th, 2012 01:02 PM

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Bless your heart or considering it!

Farmers-wife October 10th, 2012 05:59 PM

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Go ahead and shop for it, though. You never know if this was a trial run for something!

And how can I get in on that boarding school help?

#5in2005 October 11th, 2012 07:49 AM

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I'm happy to hear a solution has been found.

mom2many2010 October 11th, 2012 08:00 AM

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Sounds like a great solution!

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