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liseys mom August 15th, 2012 12:41 PM

How do you help children with loss of a grandparent
Hi everyone. I am new to these boards. I lost my mom almost a year ago to ovarian cancer. When she was diagnosed we were told that she only had a few months to live. She ending up fighting hard and was with us for almost a year in a half. In that time my kids grew closer and closer to her. We never knew when the time would come so luckily we spent many great vacations and visits with her.

Even though it has almost been a year my 6 year old still wakes up crying that she misses her grandma. I know it's okay for kids to cry and miss their grandma but it always breaks my heart when she cries. Does anyone have any advice on making her feel better?

MountainMomma September 26th, 2012 12:57 PM

Re: How do you help children with loss of a grandparent
I don't make it to this board often anymore, so I am sorry it's been so long with no replies. First, I am so sorry for your loss.

The important thing is to remember that everyone heals at a different pace. Just give your daughter lots of love, and comfort her during those times. My daughter was 9 when my Dad passed, and we went through that for about two years. There are still times that the smallest thing causes her to cry. She cannot watch the Disney move "JUMP IN" because she was watching it when my Dad passed. Just like there are times when it is more difficult for us, there will be times when it will be more difficult for her too. Just be patient and love her a lot. :)

Just_Marie October 19th, 2012 11:32 PM

Re: How do you help children with loss of a grandparent
I am so sorry for your loss

I know our kids, esp our six year old knows the concepts of heaven and death, so that is how we describe my parents who have died, that they're in heaven and happy and safe and can't wait to see us when its our time to go. I think its important to talk about it and let her vocalize her fears, kids have some strange ideas about death based on tv shows etc

alic3204 January 9th, 2013 03:21 PM

Re: How do you help children with loss of a grandparent
Sorry for your loss. My kids were 4 yrs old and app 2 yrs old when my dear dad passed away. This happened almost 4 yrs ago and my older one still gets teary eyed at times and says she misses grandpa. I try to just comfort her with hugs and tell her I miss him too and I also tell her he is with God and happy and grandpa wouldn't want her to be sad.

This seems to calm her down a bit for time until the next time something reminds her of him and we go through the same routine all over again. Take care and best of luck with your baby. They are so precious and caring.

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