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allmylove April 23rd, 2013 08:51 AM

For those of you who have already had at least one natural childbirth:
Did you ever feel like you might not be able to continue on without pain meds? If so, how soon after that thought was your baby born?

Thanks! :)

Kelllilee April 23rd, 2013 09:00 AM

Re: Doubt?
yes. With my first I was just TIRED and asked how much longer. I don't think I would have asked for pain medication, I just needed to know. Baby was born maybe 30-45 minutes later.

Second I questioned myself the whole time. I had back labor and it went very quickly. Probably the last 2 hours I wasn't sure I could do it, but I didn't have the option of pain relief anyway.

Memi April 23rd, 2013 09:16 AM

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Haven't had a NCB yet myself, but from what I have heard the self-doubt usually kicks in during transition, which is when you're already 7-8 cm dilated. So it's the very end of the journey when you're about to start pushing. From what I learned in class transition usually lasts a maximum of 2 hours in first time moms, and can last for only 30 minutes. So I've been trying my best to mentally prepare myself for when I get to that point of thinking "I can't do this", to also get excited and push through because that's when you're almost to the end and will be meeting baby soon.
Having said that, I look forward to hear what the other ladies answer with because this is something I think about often as well.

keekopeeko April 23rd, 2013 10:09 AM

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Ive had 3 natural... And I remember during my second labor I asked to be checked because I was starting to doubt myself.. I was a 6 when I was checked and that was reassuring and I knew I could handle it the rest of the way.. She was born about 30 minutes later if I remember correctly...

NinjaCakes April 23rd, 2013 11:11 AM

Re: Doubt?
Such a great question, thank you :) The thought crosses my mind, too (especially when everyone tells you you'll fail).

allmylove April 23rd, 2013 12:44 PM

Re: Doubt?
Thank you all for your responses! I am researching natural childbirth (having had two medicated vaginal births and one natural myself) and I'm going to be writing an article for my blog about the Pains and Sensations of Childbirth. My blog is atlantamomofthree.wordpress dot com.
I think it's important for women going into their first natural experience that they know what's normal and when NOT to panic. ;) I have read about the signposts of labor in a book about the Bradley method, and when I began thinking the very real thought of "I can't do this anymore", I remembered I had read that this means you are almost done and that was a HUGE help to me! I began pushing within 10 minutes and he was born 20 or so minutes after that. :)
I have found with most women, it is about 30 minutes after they think they can't do it anymore that they don't have to because the baby is out!! Awesome findings indeed! :D
Thanks again.

ashj_1218 April 23rd, 2013 01:21 PM

Re: Doubt?
My first I never felt that way.

My second was about 20 minutes before I needed to push. And I did panic that I wouldn't be able to push him out. But it all happened very quickly.

daneeleigh April 23rd, 2013 11:16 PM

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Lol I jokingly/half serious said I wanted the drugs during transition. I delivered maybe 30 minutes later. Looking back I should have known I was close because of that. I was super tired though having been awake for over 24 hours. I doubted myself the whole time because I kept waiting for the pain to become unbearable. I doubt myself now even after having done it but I know I can do it. I've done it once.

alittlelost April 24th, 2013 11:21 AM

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I'm not worried about handling the labor again, but I'm scared of the pushing phase. But I'll be in a birthing center, so for me, the commitment is made and temptation is removed. I know I'll be glad in the end.

GranolaMamaOf3 April 24th, 2013 08:41 PM

Re: Doubt?
I've had 2 completely natural births. With my first (hospital birth) I got to the point where I was just really tired and I said "I don't want to do this anymore"; Not referring to needing drugs, but just wanting labor to be over and done with. He was born within the hour (I don't remember exactly how long after). I don't think I ever said or felt that way with my second, I'm guessing because I knew from experience I was getting close to the end, AND his labor was half as long! I'll be honest and say I've never dealt with hard back labor, so I'm kind of nervous about how I would handle that if I had it this time... but I'm having a home birth so drugs wont be an option, and I'm pretty passionate about my decision to go natural.

therevslady April 25th, 2013 06:59 AM

Re: Doubt?
The only time I felt doubt was before labor actually began. Once I was in labor, I knew I could do it.

allmylove April 28th, 2013 08:16 AM

Re: Doubt?
It's funny, I wasn't "allowed" to have an epidural, even if I had wanted one, because I had low platelets (thus making it unsafe). That, combined with the fact that I'd had a lousy experience with pain meds with baby #1 made it where I KNEW I'd be going natural the whole time. During transition, though, I started thinking I wouldn't be able to do it...that somehow I would just have to stop. LOL! Not that I wanted meds, just that it would have to stop because I couldn't do it...of course, that's irrational, but it's what I felt!
He was born about 30 minutes later. ;)

bajars2531 April 28th, 2013 03:48 PM

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Nope. Pain meds was never something I considered throughour my entire pregnancy. It was never in my head so I never felt like I needed help from that source. I dug deep into what I learned in my birthing classes, got a pep talk from my midwife and doula. There was a point when I didn't think I could keep laboring, but never that I NEEDED pain meds.

UrbanMomma April 30th, 2013 12:16 PM

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I don't doubt myself anymore. I am pg with #11, have had one epi (1st baby) and hated the way that it made me feel so I have never wanted any type of pain meds again.

KtKuKi May 1st, 2013 09:18 PM

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I was very lucky to have an easy labor. Only the last half hour or so was really hard, and I remember saying it hurt really bad, but I knew he'd be born soon, so I never thought I needed the drugs.

therevslady May 2nd, 2013 06:17 AM

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I thought I would also add- during labor, I *did* have a couple of moments where I didn't want to do it. That is a completely different mentality then not being able to do it. I knew I could, but I got tired a couple of times and would rather sleep than be in labor, lol.

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