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SimplyJenalee September 13th, 2009 08:10 AM

Late night "freak outs"
Hey ladies-

Just thought I would pop in for some advice - as many of you know I haven't been around too much lately for anxiety reasons.

So I have been having some major late night freak outs when I wake up in the middle of the night. I will lay there UNTIL I have felt Tessa move....last night at 4 am I woke up to use the bathroom (for the millionth time might I add) and when i laid back down I just laid there to feel her move and when she didn't after like 10 minutes I freaked out! Heart was racing, I was thinking the worse. I woke DH up who immediately was like...Jen...she is probably sleeping. I know that she could have been sleeping BUT Alyssa died while I was sleeping so I think I have guilt over that. Anyway, I went to the living room, drank a huge glass of ice water AND a glass of Orange Juice and laid back down. Ofcourse - within 10 minutes there was a major dance party going on in my belly.

I HATE that I freak out like that. I am sure its not good for Tessa or myself to get all worked up. I am fine during the day if I don't feel her move - I just figure I have been moving around she is sleeping...but at night I have issues.

I have an appt on Thursday and I am going to talk to my OB about it.

Anyone else go through anything like I am right now?
Did you do anything that would help you?

Thanks Ladies!

BakingMommy September 13th, 2009 09:35 AM

Re: Late night "freak outs"
That is really an understandable worry. I have read alot of studies that say most babies who die in utero pass away while mother is asleep-because typically that is when a baby is most active in the womb, hence when that knot develops or the cord wraps too tightly, etc. That is probably when Roald died too though I do remember one terrible day his movements really hurt me and I figured it was just because kicking can hurt...all the books say it can...but that may very well have been his final struggle.

But anyways...I have only had one bad night freak out like this so far. I was fallling asleep one night last week and suddenly thought to myself it had been a few hours since I felt movement.I shot up and really started to worry. I remember my IRL friend who lost her daughter at 40 weeks i nthe early stages of labor telling me after labor started she stopped paying attention to movement and didn't notice until asked at the hospital if she had been feeling movement...she said actually no I haven't...but she hadn't really paid any attention to the fact that Savannah stopped kicking.

So...I don't really have any tips. But I'm sure all of us will experience this. I stayed in bed and tried to relax because I know sometimes she does sleep while I'm in bed. But...hey I know how hard it is not to worry.

SimplyJenalee September 13th, 2009 12:32 PM

Re: Late night "freak outs"
Thanks for the reassurance Bonnie. It is just so tough - I have become such a worrier! I want to fast forward to December!

LauraG September 13th, 2009 04:22 PM

Re: Late night "freak outs"
I have no advice on how not to worry since I was like that too. I would poke my belly and drink ice water before bed and then when I would wake up for the usual bathroom break. It's unfortunately part of the new normal of pregnancy.

grlpisces September 14th, 2009 08:17 AM

Re: Late night "freak outs"
<<raising hand>> Count me in as one of those who freaks out.

I had my monthly OB appointment last Tuesday afternoon and I told my OB that I get all crazy and start drinking ice water or something sugary just to get Pipsqueak to move. Once she DOES move, she really packs a punch, almost like she's pissed at me for waking her out of a deep sleep. My OB laughed and told me to give Pip a break and let her sleep.

But I told him that I need (NEED, not want, NEED) that constant reassurance that she's still alive and well. It drives me crazy. I wish I could stop this insanity, but I can't :(

I can relate to your feeling this way, Jen :(

SimplyJenalee September 14th, 2009 03:03 PM

Re: Late night "freak outs"
I know - I am half tempted to rent a doppler but DH says its silly bc I can feel her moving...which is true but seems easier then getting her moving with ice water or Orange Juice!

I do need the constant reassurance...I know there are times when she really does need to sleep but Im sure my blood pressure and heart racing doesn't do much good for her either when I get all freaked out.

Brittanie September 15th, 2009 02:57 PM

Re: Late night "freak outs"
Oh goodness, I've totally been the same way with both my rainbow babies. Cora also passed overnight (along with Bonnie's reasons, there's also the fact that the mother's blood pressure drops while she's sleeping, so if there's a constriction, it's more likely to become a problem at night because blood can't force its way through as easy)

I never rented a doppler, because I was more afraid of using it at home and NOT getting a heartbeat. What then? What if I was just doing it wrong? (but if you want one, I say go for it!) But I did need constant reassurance. There were times I'd wake up at night with both of them, and get to nearly hysterical sobbing before they would move. So you're not alone in that at all.

:dothug: I've said it before, and I'll say it again, I wish that there was a little window into your belly so you could peek in and check on them to make sure everything's okay!

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