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geogeek September 9th, 2013 08:21 PM

Pregnancy hormones/bully
So tonight Marsi and I were at a friend's house for a jewelry open house. Marsi went into her son's room (door wide open within just a few feet from the party) and as I was going to get her out, I hear my friend's 8 year old yelling at Marsi to get out of his room and calling her names. She had already wondered back there once and I told him to close his door. I was absolutely furious and this time yelled at him for calling my less than 2 year old names and yelling at her. Told his mom and she was on my side the whole way and she disciplined him more.

I am finding this really, really emotional. I was bullied my whole childhood. It brought back all the emotions and now I am bawling my eyes out. I don't know if I would still be bawling if I wasn't pregnant. Sorry if this is off topic.

momof8lopez September 9th, 2013 10:25 PM

Re: Pregnancy hormones/bully
I get it, I'm the same way. Even when my 10yr dd yells at my 3yr old. I feel bad, and make my 10yr old feel worse.......at least I try! When my 6yr old nephew yell at my 3yr old, I also get pretty aggressive. Pregnant or not, its our instinct to protect. They are so innocent at this age, and I dont want older kids taking advantage of that.

EverydayJoy September 9th, 2013 11:03 PM

Re: Pregnancy hormones/bully
I'm sorry you had that happen. The mama bear in us comes out when someone abuses our kids, whether verbally or emotionally or physically, etc.
I imagine it probably would have affected you similarly even if you weren't pregnant. I think pregnancy has a way of just keeping our emotions close to the surface...heart on our sleeve. So it's the same emotions we would have had, but just more intense and more personal. I hope tomorrow is a better day!

lelila September 10th, 2013 06:45 AM

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Awwww, I'm so sorry! The crying is the hormones, but the instinct to protect is always there. And your little one doesn't understand. Not for nothing, but my 7 yr old LOVES younger kids and would NEVER call another child a name or tell them to get out of his room. He is gentle and kind and takes his soft toys and plays with them with younger kids that come to our house. I'm very proud of him and never worry that he would be mean to a younger child.

I'm glad your friend was on your side and disciplined her child.

melissalaw September 10th, 2013 07:21 AM

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I'm sorry that happened to your sweet little Marsi. I would have been really angry also. Hopefully that little boys mom can teach him that he needs to treat others as he wants to be treated and you are always extra gentle with little ones. Did he have any younger siblings? it seems Jackson has learned so much from us having Jacob. He treats others better now that we have Jacob.

I am so terrified that one of my kids will be bullied one day. I hate bullies. I would have cried too Rachel.

geogeek September 10th, 2013 08:42 AM

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He does have younger siblings. He also just started school again and I think he may have learned it there because I have seen his mom with the kiddos and she really tries to teach them right. She is one of the children's leaders of my church as well.

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