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lelila January 31st, 2014 06:55 AM

Lent Baby Furniture Came Back Broken
We lent DS's beautiful all wood bassinet to my BIL's wife's sister a few years ago. When she was done with it, she gave it to BIL for him to use for his new boy.

He returned it to us recently and said he "Fixed" it because it got "bumped around" between the two families.

It is DESTROYED. Scratched and dented is only the start. The headboard is cracked almost beyond repair. The two supports were cracked, glued and redrilled and bolted. The secondary supports for the bottom basket are completely broken away and beyond repair. They have to be remade.

We are so disappointed that someone would treat it in such a fashion. We don't even know if can be reused. I don't really want to buy a new bassinet, since it's such an expense for such a short period of time, but this one requires so much work and new parts, it may cost just as much as a new one to repair.

What would you all do?

melissalaw January 31st, 2014 07:08 AM

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I think I might get something new for baby to sleep in. I might also ask them to chip in since they broke you other one. They must have really not taken care of it. It's pretty hard to screw up furniture like that and it's not like the baby scratched it all up.

You might look at those rock and play sleepers. I don't think they are too expensive and I've heard really good things about them.

MelChicago January 31st, 2014 07:52 AM

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Oh no, how disappointing. I'm so sorry.

Honestly, if it were me, I'd fume- and then do nothing. Well, nothing other than be upset for a bit and never trust them with anything valuable again. Neither family has admitted to the damage ("bumped around" my *****). I don't know what your relationship with each family is like, but it might be awkward to try to demand some kind of recourse or replacement.

What you could try is sending out a mass email or something, asking your family/friends/network if you could borrow a bassinet. That might spare you having to buy one.

Boos Moo January 31st, 2014 08:20 AM

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Oh that's awful. And totally the selfish reason I don't loan out things I will want to use again someday. I've had things that were loaned and then never returned, or like you ruined. So now I just don't do it.
What would I do? Probably break down and cry honestly right now :(
I like the idea of asking other family/friends if they have one to borrow.

momology January 31st, 2014 09:26 AM

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:hug: I am so sorry that is so disappointing!!!! I am like Mel I would want to ask them to chip in but I never would because I hate confrontation. I think it is a great idea to send a mass email out to family and friends asking if anyone has one to borrow.

I hope something works out!

Schofield06 January 31st, 2014 09:51 AM

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I'm so sorry! That is very frustrating! I would probably be asking for help replacing it. Saying something like it now needs to be replaced, and you could use some help to get it replaced.

I know my DH could fix something like that (it's what he used to do for work for 8 years), but I think we'd probably just replace it. If you can borrow one from someone else that would be good too.

geogeek January 31st, 2014 11:03 AM

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I am so sorry. I can't add to what others have suggested. I would be so angry as well.

EverydayJoy February 1st, 2014 09:22 AM

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That's totally unacceptable. I can't imagine doing that to anyone. "Oh hey, here's your stuff back, it's been fun! Oh, and it's completely ruined, but I don't care. Love ya!"
Our wooden (not fancy) bassinet has been through a 2,000 mile move, and the only thing that happened to it was one side got scraped up. I don't know how any baby could possibly break a bassinet that badly. What did they do, throw it out of an upstairs window??? Use it for a goal in a game of hockey? Let half-grown kids jump all over it??? I can't IMAGINE how something could get that badly broken! It's almost like they ran over it with a car, bolted it back together just to say "**** you" and then gave it back to you. UUUGGGHH I would be SOOO PO'ed! I agree with at least sending out an email saying you're in need of a new bassinet since YOURS is BROKEN beyond recognition (subtle jab there).
What an awful way to treat something that doesn't even belong to them!

lelila February 1st, 2014 09:36 AM

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The irony of all of this is last night I attended the wake of aforementioned BILS's Wife's father and she just found out I'm expecting (they are divorced now).

She said to me "Well, at least you have a Bassinet!" I just stared at her.

DH is repairing it. He fixed the cracks with wood glue and sanded down the big gashes. We are going to a wood working shop today for the support pieces and will have to bolt them together, so it will not be something that can be taken apart and put back together easily. But it will be serviceable.

Boos Moo February 1st, 2014 04:44 PM

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Oh I wouldn't have been able to keep my mouth shut about that comment, but then my mouth tends to go sometimes before my head can think ;)
I'm glad DH is working on it and I hope it turns out well.

Schofield06 February 1st, 2014 04:49 PM

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Glad your DH is able to fix it!
Also, good for you for not telling her off or something. Not sure I could have managed that.

doremi February 3rd, 2014 12:40 AM

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I would be furious. Then again, this is why I am extremely selective about who I lend my things to. It's usually only my closest friends.

MoonAngel702 February 3rd, 2014 12:23 PM

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OMG that is SOOOOO rude!!! I can't even believe that! So sorry to hear about this :(

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